A resource for those who identify as male but are viewed by the world as female.
This clash in how we see ourselves and how we are perceived by others is a painful and challenging experience for many. Fortunately there is growing awareness and understanding of the transgender experience. There are numerous resources available and groups which exist to support and advise, to guide and validate your experience. Above all, even if you feel like the only FTM or F2M in your village, you are not alone.
This is not an exhaustive resource and I would be extremely grateful for any further links, particularly for young transmen.
Thanks and respect to my friend Jack Ori, for his incredible work in this area and particularly for his consistent support for our Give ‘em Hope family.
Jack Ori is a motivational life coach and writer serving the LGBT and autism communities, with a special focus on transgender people, people with Aspergers syndrome and their families. He has a Masters in creative writing from the University of Southern California and a Bachelors in psychology from Pitzer College; Jack supplements his formal education with life experiences in order to help you look deeper into yourself and find ways to live that work for you.
Jack says, “I work with people in the transgender and aspergers communities and their parents to help facilitate communication and to help them find answers to their problems and experience greater joy”.
Check out his website: http://ftmcoachjack.com
This article extract is highly recommended for those who are struggling to find a way to “come out” to parents. Read this short introduction and click the link to go to Jack’s full, informative article.
Coming Out to Your Parents
Every aspect of the coming out process can help you feel relieved because you are no longer carrying as heavy a secret; in addition, coming out can help you feel more visible and less alone. Many transgender people are eager to come out to their families because they long for the recognition and love for their real selves that they have never fully felt. Others are reluctant to do so because they are pretty sure the reaction will be negative or they feel too fragile to handle parental rejection. Coming out to your parents is an intensely personal choice; there is no one decision that fits all transgender people and their families. If you’re considering coming out, there are certain things to consider.
To read the rest of this article, please visit Deciding to Come Out To Your Parents
Information for Family, Partners, Friends, and Allies
In this video eight families with transgender and gender non-conforming children ranging in ages from 5 to 25 share their stories. With the healthy development of their children at stake, parents must confront binary perceptions of gender, widespread transphobia and controversial parenting decisions.
TransFamily is a support group for transgender and transsexual people, their parents, partners, children, other family members, friends, and supportive others. They provide referrals, literature, and over-the-phone information on all transgender issues.
A family support group in the UK for children and teenagers with gender issues. Has a medical section and an intersex medical section, advice to parents, writings of young people, coming out stories of young people, and a list of links of young trans people.
FTM Trans SOFFAs
This group is for SOFFAs (Significant Others, Friends, Family of FTMs: husbands, wives, partners, children, teens, siblings, boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, friends and other allies). It is an unmoderated and relatively open group. All referred by FtM-trans moderator are welcome, as are lovers and allies from other lists, all subject to moderator approval. The object is support, friendship, and the open exchange of information.
Straight Men, FTM/GQ Partners
This group is for straight or straightish non-trans male partners of FTMs, trans men, FTV/FCDs, and malewards-vectored genderqueer folk. This group is designed to fill a gap in support for the partners of transfolk and to be comfortable for straight non-trans guys to talk about how their partners’ gender identities and expressions affect them. You belong here if: you are a straight or mostly straight non-trans guy, and your female-assigned partner isn’t totally comfortable identifying or presenting as female.
The Boyz Club
This list is for male partners/lovers/boyfriends of (FtM) men, including those FtMs living with or otherwise involved with other FtMs. Poly, B*DSM and other alternative relationships supported. ‘PC’ attitudes not required. Basically, just a list for men in love with other men, FtM or not, but list is FtM-oriented. Women not excluded but list is primarily for males in relationships, including friendships, with FtMs and seeking support from like-minded persons.
From Hudson’s FTM Resource Guide
ABOUT THIS GUIDE
This Guide is intended to provide information on topics of interest to female-to-male (FTM, F2M) trans men, and their friends and loved ones. Non-trans men have also found the pages on men’s grooming and clothing to be helpful. Transsexual, non-transsexual, intersex, transgender, genderqueer, questioning, and “just plain folks” are all welcome.
Hormones and the Body: A Brief Overview
FTM Testosterone Therapy Basics
Testosterone Types and Delivery
FTM Testosterone Therapy and General Health
Myths and Misconceptions about Testosterone, Transition, and Trans Men
PRESENTING AS MALE
Swimming and Locker Room Tips for Trans Men
Binding: Creating a Male-Appearing Chest
Packing: Creating a Realistic Bulge
Packing Hard: Prosthetic Devices for Sex Play
Bathroom Use & Stand-to-Pee (STP) Devices
Men’s Short Haircuts and the Barber Shop
Facial Hair: Growth and Grooming
All About Shaving (Tips and Tools)
Dealing with Acne and Other Skin Breakouts
Male Pattern Hair Loss: Information and Treatment Options
FTM Chest Reconstruction Surgeries (includes Spanish translation link)
FTM Genital Reconstruction Surgeries (GRS) (includes Spanish translation link)
Men’s Shoes in Small Sizes and Lift Shoes
Men’s Clothing for Short and Small Guys
Suits and Ties for the Beginner
FTM Books (FTM and transgender titles, as well as men’s topics such as shaving, barbering, and style)
FTM Related Links
FTM Basics: Terminology
Further Useful links:
FTM Information Sites
FTM and Trans Conferences
FTM and Trans Men’s Organizations
Trans Men’s Health Links
FTM Surgery Resources
Trans Legal Information
Information for Family, Partners, Friends, and Allies
FTM Dating Resources
General Trans Information/Organizations (not FTM-specific)
TrevorSpace: A Lifeline for LGBT and Questioning youth
I CAN’T RECOMMEND THIS RESOURCE HIGHLY ENOUGH.
TrevorSpace is a social networking site for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth ages 13 through 24 and their friends and allies.
Use TrevorSpace to:
- 1. Connect with other young people throughout the country.
- 2. Make new friends.
- 3. Find support.
- 4. Learn how to get involved in your local LGBTQ community.
- 5. Keep abreast of news pertaining to LGBTQ youth.
Join now and start building your community of friends! It’s free! And we don’t send spam or give your email address to anyone ever!
TrevorSpace is a monitored site.
See also: FTM London
FTM London started in 1997 as a peer support group for female to male transgender or transsexual people.
Today we are a diverse and exciting group that continues to offer much needed support as well as information, resources and friendly networking for the FTM community. We work to alleviate the isolation that can be felt around gender identity issues.
We are comprised of trans guys, genderqueer people, and all those who were assigned female at birth and are questioning their gender identity. Although based in central London, many attend our meetings from further afield. We are one of the largest face to face groups of our kind in the country.
We’re here to meet the needs of our members and attendees. The meetings are in large part a chance to hang out with other trans people, have a cuppa and a chin wag. We offer peer support, information and literature as well as regular guest speakers who are experts in gender identity issues and trans culture.
want to get in touch?
If you feel like FTM London might be a good place for you, why not pop down to our next meeting, check out our website, give us a buzz or send us an email?
send them an email
give them a call
07948 250 778
or write to them
BCM FTM LONDON
This resource was created by David E Watters
David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years.
He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education.
He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (www.pacificinstitute.co.uk
), personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates.
He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK
and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN
which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity.
David is currently promoting a youtube campaign“Give ‘em Hope”
and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity.
He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust
, The Albert Kennedy Trust and The Harvey Milk Foundation.
His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer.