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NEVER BLEND IN – WHAT’S ALL THE FUSS?


About the book

NEVER BLEND IN is an accessible book about achieving personal authenticity, a groundbreaking and vital book of exclusive celebrity and deeply personal non-celebrity interviews, which is aimed primarily at a young lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning audience. The book, however, is also of value to educators, parents, family and mental health professionals seeking insight into the LGBTQ experience.

Role models from education, entertainment, law enforcement, medical and emergency services, politics, religion and sports have participated in this much needed discourse to illuminate the reader’s journey of self-discovery and to illustrate that living a life unlimited by labels will lead to personal, professional and spiritual fulfilment.

These candid stories and wise words are a powerful toolkit to encourage, inspire, uplift and give hope to those who need it most; those who may feel disenfranchised or who may lack self-belief.

Inspired by the life of Harvey Milk and with a foreword by his nephew Stuart Milk, this book includes original and insightful interviews with actors Alan Cumming OBE (Cabaret, Spy Kids, The Good Wife), Stephen Fry (Peter’s Friends, Wilde)Anthony Rapp (Rent), Colton Ford (The Lair), Marcus Patrick (My Wife & KidsCSI: MiamiPassions and Dancing With The Stars), Scotch Ellis Loring (Frasier, Malcolm in the Middle, 24, Alias, Touched by An Angel) and Adele Anderson (Fascinating Aida); key equality advocates, educators and influencers of policy Sue Sanders (Schools Out), Charles Robbins(CEO, The Trevor Project), Stephen Williams MP,Jack MacKenroth (Project RunwayQueens of Drag: NYC), Rabbi Denise EgerLt. Dan Choi and veteran human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell; filmmakerParvez Sharma (A Jihad for Love); musicians Darren Hayes (Savage Garden) and Levi Kreis (Tony Award winner for “Best Featured Actor in a Musical” for his role as Jerry Lee Lewis in the Broadway musical Million Dollar Quartet) ; sporting greats, NBA star, John Amaechi (author of Man in the Middle) and Olympic swimmer Bruce Hayes; transgender trailblazers Calpernia Addams, the Rev David E. Weekley (author of In from the Wilderness) and Jamison Green (author of Becoming a Visible Man); Mental Health professionals, Gladeana McMahonAntoine Spiteri and Dr. John Shafer; writers Tom Robb Smith (Child 44, The Secret Speech), Leslea Newman (A Letter to Harvey Milk),Linda Goldman (Coming Out, Coming In), Michael Musto (The Village Voice);  Del Shores (Sordid Lives) and Stephanie Silberstein (Shades of Gay); representatives from organizations including The Trevor ProjectThe Harvey Milk Foundation,PFLAGFireFLAGThe Gay Police Association andSchools Out and colleagues of Harvey Milk; Anne KronenbergDaniel Nicoletta and Tom Ammiano.

These stories of living authentically, with dignity and unlimited by labels will help readers to understand how self esteem determines the path they choose and that life need not be a self fulfilling prophecy when they improve self-concept, drive out fear and embrace new challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, eliminate self imposed limitations and cease dependence on others to provide validity.

Harvey Milk’s legacy is the growing number of proud lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) individuals who refuse to live their lives limited by the judgment of others.

The various voices in this book candidly and sincerely share their wisdom and belief that we can be an important part of society without blending in; that we can live with 100% authenticity, unlimited by labels; that we shouldn’t be expected to compromise our identity to find acceptance and everyone, regardless of sexuality or gender identity, has a right to fully live.

There is practical advice and guidance from the LGBT community on how life need not be a self-fulfilling prophecy and that by recognizing that our “truth” has been shaped through our relationships, our environment and our experiences, we can begin to change our perceptions, heighten our self-esteem and move toward our personal and professional goals with clear vision and purpose….

 

About the Author

Since graduating from The Institute of Education, University of London, David has gone on to train with LEAP, as a mediator, and is a qualified facilitator for The Pacific Institute. 

He is a writer and speaker on social inequality issues and is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK.

David is currently promoting a youtube campaign “Give ‘em Hope” and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity.

As Director of NBI Associates, David devises and delivers engaging, enjoyable and interactive workshops utilizing Cognitive Behavioural and Performing Arts strategies for individual, corporate and academic clients.

He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out and The Harvey Milk Foundation.

CONTACT INFORMATION

EMAIL: DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk


THOUGHT FOR THE DAY #1


God (whatever that is for you) really does love you just the way you are; SHE made you perfect just as you are so try to love yourself just a little more…SHE MAKES NO MISTAKES. All creation is beautiful and in our diversity we illuminate the world.

 

DAVID E. WATTERS

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT COACHING

http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk

SKYPE: never.blend.in

 


Equal Love case goes to European Court


Legal bid for gay marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships

 

 

 

Eight couples file joint application on 2 February

 

Professor Robert Wintemute outlines the legal case for equality

 

 

Photo call

9.30am, Wednesday 2 February

Corner Abingdon Street and Great College Street, SW1

(diagonally opposite the House of Lords)

Equal Love – European Court application launch

10.30am, Tuesday 2 February

Committee Room 17

House of Commons

 

 

“Eight British couples will formally file a joint legal application to the European Court of Human Rights this Wednesday, 2 February, in a bid to overturn the twin bans on gay civil marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships,” announced human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell of the LGBT human rights group OutRage!.

 

The European Court challenge will be formally announced at a meeting in Committee Room 17 at the House of Commons at 10.30am, booked in the name of Caroline Lucas MP. Ms Lucas is the keynote speaker.

 

Prior to this meeting, there will be a photo call at 9.30am, where the couples filing the European Court challenge will post their application in the red letter box at the corner of Abingdon Street and Great College Street, SW1, diagonally opposite the House of Lords.

 

Peter Tatchell is coordinator of the Equal Love campaign – www.equalove.org.uk – which seeks to end sexual orientation discrimination in both civil marriage and civil partnership law.

 

“Since November, four same-sex couples were refused marriage licenses at register offices in Greenwich, Northampton and Petersfield. Four heterosexual couples were also turned away when they applied for civil partnerships in Islington, Camden, Bristol and Aldershot,” added Mr Tatchell.

 

“All eight couples received letters of refusal from their register offices, which we are now using as the evidential basis to challenge in the European Court of Human Rights the UK’s exclusion of gay couples from civil marriage and the prohibition of straight civil partnerships. Since there is no substantive difference in the rights and responsibilities involved in gay marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships, there is no justification for having two mutually exclusive and discriminatory systems.

 

“Outlawing black or Jewish people from getting married would provoke uproar. The prohibition on gay marriages should provoke similar outrage. Arbitrarily excluding heterosexual couples from civil partnerships is equally reprehensible.

 

“The bans on same-sex civil marriages and opposite-sex civil partnerships are a form of sexual apartheid – one law for gay couples and another law for heterosexual partners. Two wrongs don’t make a right. In a democratic society, we should all be equal before the law,” said Mr Tatchell.

 

Wednesday’s launch will be chaired by Peter Tatchell, and feature Caroline Lucas MP as the keynote speaker, plus some of the eight couples and their legal advisor, Professor Robert Wintemute of the School of Law at Kings College London. He will outline the legal basis of the Equal Love challenge to the current proscriptions.

 

“Our Equal Love campaign wants both marriages and civil partnerships opened up to all couples, different-sex and same-sex. Let everyone have a free and equal choice,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

“Banning same-sex marriage and different-sex civil partnerships violates Articles 8, 12 and 14 of the European Convention on Human Rights.

 

“It’s discriminatory and obnoxious, like having separate drinking fountains or beaches for different racial groups, even though the water is the same. The only function of the twin bans is to mark lesbian and gay people as socially and legally inferior to heterosexual people.

 

“I am confident that we have a good chance of persuading the European Court of Human Rights that the UK’s system of segregating couples into two ‘separate but equal’ legal institutions violates the European Convention.  I predict that same-sex couples will be granted access to marriage in the UK and that this will be because the UK Government will eventually accept that it cannot defend the current discriminatory system,” he said.

 

See Prof Wintemute’s detailed legal arguments below.

See below a summary of countries around the world that have legislated same-sex civil marriage and civil unions.

More information:

 

Professor Robert Wintemute – 07405 027 278 or 0207 848 2356 (office)

 

Peter Tatchell – 020 7403 1790

 

www.equallove.org.uk

 

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

 

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

Professor Robert Wintemute explains the legal basis of the application to the European Court of Human Rights:

1. Why and how we are able to take the Equal Love legal case direct to the European Court of Human Rights, without first exhausting the UK courts

“We have decided to take our case directly to the European Court of Human Rights for two reasons,” said Professor Robert Wintemute.

 

“First, anyone challenging discriminatory legislation under the Human Rights Act 1998 has to worry that losing could mean being ordered to pay the UK Government’s legal costs. This happened in 2006 to a lesbian couple, Susan Wilkinson and Celia Kitzinger, when they tried to have their lawful Canadian marriage recognised as a marriage in the UK. Our government would only recognise it as a civil partnership. Their case was rejected by a High Court judge, who ordered them to pay the UK Government £25,000 in legal costs. They could not afford to appeal the decision. In contrast, individuals who lose in the European Court of Human Rights do not have to pay the UK Government’s legal costs. The eight couples bringing this joint legal action are not well off and are not in a position to take the risk of a potentially huge legal bill.

 

“Second, even if we were to win in a UK court, the Human Rights Act 1998 only allows a UK court to make a ‘declaration of incompatibility’, if the court deems legislation to be discriminatory. The Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 states that the parties to a marriage must be male and female. The Civil Partnership Act 2004 stipulates that the parties to a civil partnership must be of the same sex. A ‘declaration of incompatibility’ is not legally binding, so the UK Government is free to ignore it. Even if the declaration is made by the UK Supreme Court, the UK Government is able to say: ‘We’ll wait to hear what the European Court of Human Rights has to say.’ This limit on the powers of UK courts under the Human Rights Act 1998 is a defect in the UK’s legal protection of human rights.  Because of this defect, the European Court of Human Rights confirmed in 2008 that a ‘declaration of incompatibility’ is not an effective remedy, and does not have to be exhausted before making an application to the Court against the UK Government.”

 

2. The key points and arguments of the Equal Love legal case

 

“Our case is that the combination of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 and the Civil Partnership Act 2004 creates a system that segregates couples into two separate legal institutions, with different names but identical rights and responsibilities. The segregation of couples is based on their sexual orientations: same-sex couples are excluded from marriage, and different-sex couples are excluded from civil partnership. Under Article 14 of the European Convention on Human Rights, all differences in treatment affecting other Convention rights -  in this case the rights to marry in Article 12 and to respect for family life in Article 8 – must have an ‘objective and reasonable justification’.  The European Court of Human Rights has said that differences in treatment based on sexual orientation ‘require particularly serious reasons by way of justification’, like differences in treatment based on race, religion or sex.  The only apparent reason for maintaining the system of segregation is to use the law to mark same-sex couples as socially and legally inferior, and different-sex couples as socially and legally superior. Same-sex couples are excluded from marriage, which is the universal system for legally recognising a loving, committed, sexual relationship between two adults. This legal segregation is similar to having separate beaches and drinking fountains for white and black people, as existed in South Africa under apartheid.  It is comparable to having a system of marriage for Christians and civil partnership for non-Christians.”

 

3. Why previous ECHR rulings against same-sex marriage might not apply in our case

 

“On 24 June 2010, the European Court of Human Rights issued its first judgment in a case in which a same-sex couple was seeking the right to marry. The Court found no violation of the European Convention on Human Rights in the case of two men, Horst Schalk and Johan Kopf, who were seeking the right to marry in Austria. Although the Court ruled that Article 12 of the Convention did not yet impose an obligation on European governments to allow same-sex couples to marry, the Court changed its interpretation of Article 12, saying that it ‘would no longer consider that the right to marry enshrined in Article 12 must in all circumstances be limited to marriage between two persons of the opposite sex’. When more Council of Europe countries than the current 7 (out of 47) allow same-sex couples to marry, the Court will be willing to consider ordering all of them to do so. The number European countries that allow same-sex marriage increased from three in 2005 to seven in 2010, and could double again while this case is pending. Same-sex marriage bills are currently being considered by the parliaments in Luxembourg and Slovenia, and a bill is expected soon in Finland. With a change of government, Denmark and France may follow suit.

 

“In our case, we are not asking the Court to order Italy, Poland, Russia, Turkey, Ukraine and 35 other Council of Europe member states to allow same-sex couples to marry. Some countries in continental Europe, like Austria, do not want to allow same-sex couples to marry, because they are not ready to allow them to adopt children jointly, or to grant lesbian couples access to donor insemination. But this is not the situation in the UK. In 2002, same-sex couples in England and Wales were granted the right to adopt children jointly. In 2004, they won the right to register a civil partnership and acquire all of the rights of married different-sex couples, except in relation to assisted reproduction. In 2008, they achieved full equality in relation to assisted reproduction, including donor insemination.  We are asking the Court to require the UK Government to explain why, after taking these politically difficult decisions voluntarily, and having gone so far to ensure equality between marriage and civil partnerships, the UK should be allowed to withhold access to marriage from same-sex couples, and access to civil partnership from different-sex couples. Given that UK marriages and civil partnerships confer identical rights and responsibilities, the UK government will have to justify to the European Court its maintenance of two different institutions that discriminate based on sexual orientation.

 

“We will draw on the EU Court of Justice’s requirement of consistency, set out in its Maruko judgment in 2008. The EU Court ruled that it was up to Germany to decide whether or not to have a registered partnership law for same-sex couples, and how many rights to grant registered same-sex partners. But once Germany decided voluntarily to pass a registered partnership law, and to put registered same-sex partners ‘in a situation comparable to that of spouses’, Germany could not exclude them from survivor’s benefits under employment-related pension plans that fell within the scope of EU anti-discrimination law. EU freedom of movement law also requires consistency with regard to the immigration rights of same-sex partners who are not EU citizens, ‘if the legislation of the host Member State treats registered partnerships as equivalent to marriage’.

 

“Our case is essentially that the European Convention on Human Rights, read in conjunction with developments in European Union law, imposes an obligation of consistency on European governments that voluntarily create an institution like civil partnership, and then grant same-sex civil partners all of the rights of different-sex spouses.

 

“The European Court of Human Rights should, as a matter of consistency and for the avoidance of pettiness, require the UK and other countries in the same position, like Denmark, to take the final step and grant access to the institution of marriage. Anyone who has attended a civil partnership ceremony, and seen how similar it is to a marriage ceremony, knows how extraordinarily petty it is for the UK Government to say that a same-sex couple can have all the rights and responsibilities of marriage through an institution with a different name (civil partnership) but cannot have access to the word and institution of marriage.

 

4. Our assessment of the chances of success

 

“I am confident that we have a good chance of persuading the European Court of Human Rights that the UK’s system of segregating couples into two ‘separate but equal’ legal institutions violates the Convention.  I would predict that same-sex couples will be granted access to marriage in the UK and that this will be because the UK Government will eventually accept that they cannot defend the current discriminatory system. The UK Government should settle the case, and voluntarily introduce a bill in the UK Parliament, so that the European Court of Human Rights does not have to issue a judgment. This bill should simply repeal the twin bans on same-sex marriage and different-sex civil partnership, and give every couple, different-sex or same-sex, a choice of marriage or civil partnership, as in the Netherlands, Quebec and South Africa.  This bill would bring ‘Equal Love’ to the UK,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

 

“At this event we will announce the joint legal action to be taken by the eight Equal Lovecouples. Four same-sex couples have filed applications at register offices for civil marriages. Four different-sex couples have applied for civil partnerships. All have been refused, on the grounds that the law prohibits same-sex civil marriages and different-sex civil partnerships. It is this discrimination that we intend to challenge in the courts,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

 

Background information

 

Segregation of couples in UK law, based on sexual orientation:

 

Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, s. 11:  ”A marriage … shall be void [if] … the parties are not respectively male and female …”

 

Civil Partnership Act 2004, s. 3(1):  ”Two people are not eligible to register as civil partners … if they are not of the same sex …”

 

Countries, provinces and states with marriage for same-sex and different-sex couples:

 

17 – Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Iceland, Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, USA (Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, District of Columbia), Mexico (Federal District)

 

Countries, provinces and states with civil partnership for same-sex and different-sex couples:

11 – Australia (Australian Capital Territory, New South Wales, Tasmania, Victoria), Canada (Québec), Netherlands, New Zealand, South Africa, USA (Illinois, Nevada, District of Columbia)

 

Countries, provinces and states with both marriages and civil partnerships open to gay and heterosexual couples ie. “Equal Love”:

 

3 – Canada (Québec), Netherlands, South Africa

 

 

More information:

 

Professor Robert Wintemute – 07405 027 278 or 0207 848 2356 (office)

 

Peter Tatchell – 020 7403 1790

 

www.equallove.org.uk

 

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

 

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

 

ENDS

 

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I’M YOUR MAN


 

David E. Watters, a graduate of Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally as a performer, director and educator for more than 20 years, has taught literacy, drama and music within a wide variety of socially and culturally diverse settings and, as a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (www.pacificinstitute.co.uk), a personal tutor, freelance writer, public speaker and founding member of NBI Associates (www.nbiassociates.co.uk), is an Equality Advocate who brings inspiration and motivation, enhances personal efficacy and encourages excellence.

 

As a performer he has worked for Disney, Warner Brothers, English Chamber Orchestra, Scottish Chamber Orchestra, Mayfield Chamber Opera amongst many others.

 

As a teacher, David was most recently a Head of Department in Further Education with a 100% pass rate and a fantastic progression record; students currently studying at Laban, Rose Bruford, RADA,  Trinity College of Music. and working successfully within the industry – most recent success being Rachel Adedeji who reached the televised finals of X Factor 2009.

 

David, who regularly writes for www.ambiente.us, One Nation and Polari, has been championed by Stuart Milk, nephew of Harvey Milk and Equality Advocate, who has said: “I love your work, which is vital to show the richness of embracing and celebrating our wonderful diversity. As Harvey would say, you’re bringing medicine into the world that the world needs! Thank you!”

 

He is an inspirational, motivational speaker who most recently shared a platform with Peter Tatchell and Stuart Milk at the 17-24-30 No to Hate Vigil in Trafalgar Square, London.

http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Invite-DAVID-To-Speak-.html

David is currently finalizing his book, Never Blend In: The Legacy of Harvey Milk which supports and is supported by The Trevor Project and the Harvey Milk Foundation.

 

The book sets out to highlight and challenge social perceptions of the LGBT community; to understand the causes of low self-esteem and suicide ideation felt by many LGBT individuals and, through a unique collection of inspirational interviews with well known and everyday people, to inspire and encourage the younger generation, or anyone questioning their validity, to lead a balanced, fulfilling and dignified life.

 

Role models from education, entertainment, law enforcement, medical and emergency services, politics, religion and sports have participated in this accessible and much needed discourse to illuminate the reader’s journey of self-discovery and self- efficacy.

 

Openly LGBT and successful role model figures can play an enormous part in highlighting the wealth of possibilities available to young people. These people, who are successfully modeling admirable qualities and character traits such as determination, diligence, vision and consistent effort, can only serve to inspire and encourage the younger generation, or anyone questioning their validity, to lead a balanced, fulfilling and dignified life.

 

Notable voices in the book are Harvey’s colleagues, Anne Kronenberg, Tom Ammiano and Danny Nicoletta; Equality Advocate, Stuart Milk; actors Stephen Fry, Alan Cumming and Anthony Rapp; Human Rights Campaigner, Peter Tatchell; musician Darren Hayes (Savage Garden); Sordid Lives writer Del Shores; columnist, Michael Musto; filmmaker, Parvez Sharma; actress and businesswoman, Calpernia Addams; NBA star John Amaechi; Rabbi Denise Eger, Rev. David Weekley, Lt. Daniel Choi and authors Lesléa Newman and Tom Rob Smith.

 

We, as a community, are under or misrepresented in the media and this impacts upon how individuals are perceived and treated by society.  Positive, inspirational role models from the LGBT community can have an enormous impact on addressing this and can give hope to individuals who feel less valid and disenfranchised from society.

Most inspiring have been the “regular” people (the Scottish fireman, the Canadian concert pianist, the American professor, the South African artist or the student in Cardiff) who live with authenticity and, perhaps without realizing, are role models and inspirational figures to those whose lives they touch.

The “community” if such a thing exists is diverse but too many live in the shadows. My point, with this book, is that self worth determines our potential and that blending in is a direct result of feeling “less than”, feeling ashamed of how God (whatever that means to you) made you”.

 

Harvey Milk’s legacy, for this author, is the growing number of proud LGBT individuals who refuse to live lives limited by the judgment of others.

 

We can be part of society without blending in. To me it means living with 100% authenticity (as Dr Phil or Oprah might say!). We shouldn’t compromise our identity to be accepted and everyone regardless of sexuality or gender identity has a right to fully live.

 

Life need not be a self-fulfilling prophecy and by recognizing that our “truth” has been shaped through our relationships, our environment and our experiences, we can begin to change our perceptions, heighten our self-esteem and move toward our personal and professional goals with clear vision and purpose….

 

 

David’s background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of CBT, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a motivational speaker, personal development facilitator and a writer.

 

LINKS

WRITING: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Links.html

MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKING: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Invite-DAVID-To-Speak-.html

COACHING: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/NBI-for-Individuals.html

WORKSHOPS –

SCHOOLS AND COLLEGES: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/NBI-for-Schools—Colleges.html

CREATIVE CHALLENGE DAYS FOR PERFORMERS: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/CREATIVE-CHALLENGE-DAYS.html

NBI FOR BUSINESSES: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/NBI-for-Businesses.html

EQUAL LOVE: www.equallove.org.uk

 

Please email DAVID WATTERS at DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk

with your requirements and availability.

 

David E. Watters

Enhancing Learning • Improving Performance • Inspiring Learners


EXPERIENCED WRITER, TEACHER, PERSONAL TUTOR & SPEAKER

…dedicated to guiding students to succeed while inspiring an insatiable passion for learning through performance


David E. Watters, a graduate of Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally as a director and educator for more than 20 years, has taught literacy, drama and music within a wide variety of socially and culturally diverse settings and, as a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute, a personal tutor, freelance writer, public speaker and founding member of NBI Associates, is an Equality Advocate who brings inspiration and motivation, enhances personal efficacy and encourages excellence.

SUMMARY OF SKILLS

Advanced IT Skills - MS OFFICE – WORD, POWERPOINT, OUTLOOK, INTERNET MARKETING TOOLS, INTRANET.

Literacy, Numeracy, Employability Skills, Performing Arts – embedding key skills within vocational learning.

Devising, Developing and Coordination – utilizing differentiated teaching strategies and resources to accommodate specific learning requirements and liaising with Heads of Department, teaching staff and external partners.

Communication and Interpersonal Skills development of Creative Partnerships, interdepartmental liaison and extensive public performance. I have been a school manager, Head of Department, teacher and personal tutor. Also a public speaker and writer on social equality, I work with a broad range of charities (17-24-30, the Albert Kennedy Trust, the Harvey Milk Foundation and the Trevor Project) and, as part of the Equal Love UK Campaign, I coordinate publicity with local and national media.

Collaboration – I have had a broad range of teaching and management experience which has enhanced my capacity for working supportively within a team environment and adapt well to both following and delivering instruction. As an education coordinator, I have been instrumental in coordinating educational and charity events which have involved the liaison with public figures (including Kylie Minogue, Stephen Fry, Darren Hayes and Joan Baez), educational establishments and charitable organizations (notably, The Terrence Higgins Trust).

 

SUMMARY OF QUALIFICATIONS

  • The Institute of Education, University of London – PGCE. 2006
  • SMART TRAINING – Edexcel Level 3 BTEC Award in Management. 2010
  • SMART TRAINING – Edexcel Level 3 NVQ in Management. 2010
  • The Pacific Institute – Facilitator for PX2 PROGRAM. 2010
  • The Pacific Institute – Facilitator for the Investment in Excellence. 2009
  • American Express Europe Limited – ICP (Instructors Certificate). 2001
  • Trinity College of Music, London – DipTCL (Merit). 1996
  • Napier University, Edinburgh – Diploma in Music, ALCM (Performance) and LLCM (Peripatetic Teaching Qualification). 1991 and 1992
  • Dundee College of Further Education – NVQ Theatre Arts 1989

 

HIGHLIGHTED TEACHING EXPERIENCE


 

July 2010: NBI Associates – Program Director: Music & Drama Based education programs utilizing Cognitive Behavioural strategies to encourage personal efficacy, goal setting and to eradicate limiting labels. Responsible for writing courses, training staff, creating resources which cater for different learning requirement of individuals and environments.

July 2009 – Present: The Pacific Institute – Personal and Professional Development Facilitator: Management consultancy and market research to create courses specific to individual business or community requirements. Following key concepts and Learning Objectives, I devise and deliver customer focused courses.

July 2006 – July 2010: Greenwich Community College – Musical Theatre Coordinator: Responsibility for WRITING UNITS BASED ON GIVEN CRITERIA (BTEC FIRST, BTEC ND, LOCN) and the coordination and delivery of BTEC FIRST & ND Performing Arts (Musical Theatre). Creation of relevant learning resources, writing Schemes of Work, Assignment Briefs, Internal Verification, Coordination of External Verification. Additionally, staff recruitment and support; providing guidance and training where necessary, Portfolio Development, Strategy Planning, interdepartmental liaison and coordination with particular regard to performance events, student guidance towards entry into Higher Education providing them with the correct balance of knowledge, skills and experience to confidently audition for Drama School, University or to enter the profession directly.

April 2004 – August 2006: Plumstead Manor School – Musical Theatre Tutor: Responsible for devising, delivering and assessing the work for BTEC First and BTEC ND Performing Arts Courses. Classroom teacher for Years 7 to 11 including GCSE. Singing teacher and choirmaster. Direction and/or Musical Direction for Unit related performances.

Jan 2004 – Dec 2005: Theatretrain – Franchisee and School Manager for Greenwich Theatretrain: This role involved program planning, Staff and Student Recruitment and Retention, Budget Planning, Accounting, Publicity and Promotion, Project Coordination, Event Management (both large and small scale); Script Writing/Adapting, Musical Arranging, Costume/Prop/Set Designing and Building/Making and Scheduling, the building of Creative Partnerships, Student Welfare and staff/student/parent liaison.

May 2003 – August 2006: Bexley Business Academy, KentPeripatetic singing Tutor and Choirmaster: Responsible for teaching technique, repertoire and musicianship to students preparing for Rockschool, Associated Board and GCSE Examinations. Choirmaster role was to build a varied choral repertoire suitable for performance at internal and external events (Assemblies, Award Ceremonies and Local Festivals)

2000 – 2002: American Express EuropeLine Instructor and Training Co-ordinator: Responsible for coordinating training with recruitment needs. Devising and delivering training on Products, Processes and Systems for New Accounts EMEA (Europe, Middle East and Asia ). Creation of learning tools and resources. Staff training and support.

1998 – 1999: Reynolds Theatre Academy, Dartford – Head of Vocal Studies.

 


REFEREES


Available upon request



 

ENDORSEMENTS
COPYRIGHT NOTICE © TEXT & IMAGES
Stuart Milk, nephew of Harvey Milk and Equality Advocate, has said“I love your work, which is vital to show the richness of embracing and celebrating our wonderful diversity. As Harvey would say, you’re bringing medicine into the world that the world needs! Thank you!”

I think that out of everyone in society LGBT people, especially LGBT youth, are subjected to most negative energy and the most negative portrayals of themselves and so it’s really important for us as a community to give back and to let people see that the sun can shine

ALAN CUMMING
He (Harvey Milk) had great confidence in me; I really felt that the basic message was “you can do it”. He was a cheerleader first and then he would deconstruct content second. I think there was always this attention to helping somebody really feel that they can make their way.

If you look at his speeches that’s there; there’s really this broad stroke that’s about positivity and confidence so you’re on the right path in terms of carrying on his work that way.
For me as a care professional, working in chem-dependency, to have any kind of guidebook that talks about self-esteem or how to keep people from committing suicide…I’m all for it. The few kids that have shown up that had suicide ideation, quite honestly, I didn’t have a template for what to tell them so I had to rely upon my intuition but I have no idea if I’m doing the right thing. I definitely feel that the therapeutic community, the psychological therapeutic community has a role to play in LGBT civil rights and I applaud you for doing this.
I was reading some of your pages on your website and I thought, “This is the antidote to my suicidal friend. If he could just read this, it would help him rephrase what he is defaulting to now.”
This is a very spiritually adept person; he’s practiced many disciplines, meditates, and he’s gone through all kinds of personal growth stuff and, because of his propensity to respond to his own addiction, he really ends up in these suicidal places. It’s really heartbreaking, you know and I don’t know why I got saved, why I didn’t, why I figured it out, how not to do that. When I see this happening to him, it’s just mind-boggling and it really is good to have a map available to find your way out of those negative moods.
DAN NICOLETTA

For young people coming to terms with their sexuality it’s really important that they have positive, high achieving role models as a way of boosting their self esteem and confidence. This kind of book shares the experience of a very diverse group of LGBT people. Individual and collective experience offers the inspiration and motivation for LGBT people to do something worthwhile with their lives and live their dream.
PETER TATCHELL

There are two ways you can approach not fitting in.  If you get to see it as a blessing, feeling like an Outsider can eventually give you the freedom and license to create your own world, follow your own goals, and make your own reality.  I’ve always thought it must be a lot harder for those who effortlessly belong – how much stronger the temptation to just blend in and be a non-questioning sheep!  Yes, there is pain. Feelings of rejection, confusion, self-doubt.  But think of those negatives in a positive light:  you have the chance to acquire resilience, fortitude, understanding and the realization but you have one life to live, so you absolutely have the right to live it your way!

It’s no shame to get help and inspiration from others, which is why David Watters ‘Never Blend In’, is so timely.
TRISHA GODDARD

At all times, but especially as an adolescent you need to be told “You are not alone” – there is no more positive and euphoric feeling than the discovery that others, including people of courage, genius, insight, passion, talent and charm felt the kind of feelings you feel. Especially when society, religion and the world tell you that those feelings are wrong.
I have to modify that with this point though: some people growing up LGBT will certainly want affirmation that they are not alone, but they will also (quite rightly IMHO) resist the idea that there is a “type” and that they fall into a categorisation. Such is the human paradox, yearning to assimilated and demanding to be treated as unique and apart. A part of the tribe and apart from the tribe. There are plenty of young LGBT people I know or have known who hate the idea of any sort of ghetto or connection with others. I’m Jewish and I’ll fight against anti-Semitism, but I’ll also raise issues about Israel’s violations of human rights and express my happy atheism and contempt for much of Judaism… It’s not a question of “hurrah, there’s a role model, now I know who I am and who my people are and where I belong in
the world.”
STEPHEN FRY
Role models are described as those individuals who we ‘aspire to’ and who provide strong and achievable targets that we can emulate in pursuit of our career or personal aims. This book breaks down the common stereotypes of gay people and unveils a more realistic perspective, chronicling the success of many gay role models that others aspire to.
In “Never Blend In” David Watters has brought together a number of role models in one publication featuring successful gay artists, scientists and entrepreneurs, who share their experiences and take you on their journey.  These are men and women with whom you can relate, whose stories will inspire and motivate you and leave you ready to move forward, both personally and professionally.
Be inspired by the successful members of the gay community; real men and women. Read about the challenges they faced along the way, what helped to keep them going, and what it takes to make a small business, a life, a success.
This book illustrates the breadth and creativity of gays everywhere.  It is a pioneering work and the success stories of inspirational gay role models from a wide variety of backgrounds should be made available in every library, every school.  These are men and women you can aspire to but who have all shown just what it takes to become a role model – determination, courage and an unwavering desire to succeed.
“Never Blend In” brings you some amazing candidates all of whom have succeeded in very different ways. They each have inspiring stories to tell about their achievements and future ambitions, yet I noticed they all had one thing in common they were passionate about what they did.
So in reality gays are still struggling for acceptance and to reach the top of the ladder. However, I think for the gay who enters the celebrity arena or who decides to do his/her own thing - they no longer have to do it at the expense of their happiness- they can do things on their own terms. For many it will provide them with the work/ life balance that wasn’t available for them in the past.  It’s vital we have gays in big business and we need more gays to be there. I think companies need to realize they can’t operate without gays.  But they do need to provide the very thing we all tend to take for granted – the basic right of being given the same opportunities and earning power as str8 men.  We are mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, lovers, and friends. We are like you.
Anthony Spiteri, BS, MSc, PhD (Psychology)

The book NEVER BLEND IN is a provocative look into the lives of successful people who live in a world where the odds are stacked against us. It is important to give hope to the younger generation with diverse sexual orientations to see that we can be happy, healthy, and successful players in this game we call life.  I hope by telling my story in this book, I can, in some small way, make life easier for those who march to the beat of a different drum.  I am a rebel with a cause…you can either march with me, or step out of my way.
I am excited to order several copies of your book and share them with friends and family as gifts. I may try to use it with one of my classes that I teach at my college on the psychology of diversity.
DR JOHN R. SHAFER, Director of the Counseling Center and Professor at Franklin College of Indiana, President, Shafer Consulting Services
Gladeana McMahon, As one of the leading personal development and transformational coaches in the UK, Gladeana was instrumental in founding the Association for Coaching for which she now holds the positions of Life Fellow and Vice President.

The Book that David Watters is proposing is long overdue as there is little written on the topic of LGBT issues.
Positive role models are important to individuals whether they be LGBT individuals talking about their experiences or the family and friends of such individuals who can model acceptance and positive affirmation.  Therapists are likely to be interested in such a book in a bid to understand the specific needs of those who identify as LGBT considering the best ways to work with such individuals and/or their families.  Academics are likely to find the book useful in considering issues around diversity and, of course, the general public will also benefit as a book of this sort educates the reader. This book will also help LGBT individuals to understand their situation and consider how to develop a deep and meaningful sense of self-worth.  It will also help such individuals understand how best to help those around them to understand their situation as much as it will educate family and friends.

NEVER BLEND IN, and the efforts of writer David Watters, is a brilliant collection and resource of openly LGBT and successful role models across the globe.  The value to all, especially for the younger generation, is paramount.  The presentation of individuals who are successful, determined, active and visible in our communities will undoubtedly inspire all who read this collection, to do better, become a better person, and strive for greatness in their lives and that of others.
The LGBT community has often been portrayed in a less than favorable light – NEVER BLEND IN rips that inaccurate veil off, and offers a face and portrait of today’s LGBT community, its leaders, history, accomplishments and potential.
Herb Sosa, Editor|Publisher – Ambiente Magazine
& President – Unity Coalition|Coalicion Unida

“NEVER BLEND IN is a vital project that is sure to make a difference in many young (and not so young!) lives. As the author of HEATHER HAS TWO MOMMIES, I have seen firsthand how important it is for children to see a family like theirs portrayed in the media. It is just as important for teenagers and adults to see themselves represented in books, in film, and on TV.
By showcasing people who are out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender and living authentic lives, David Watters is sending an important message to those struggling to come out and be out: You CAN be yourself and live a full, satisfying, meaningful, and glorious life.”–
Lesléa Newman

This book is crucially important because we need to continually shed light on the struggles and adversity facing the LGBT community.
We can never become complacent in our fight for equal rights and we need to remember the trailblazers who ignited the spark for the flame of progress that burns today.
As role models following in the legacy of others like Harvey Milk, we need to stand as proud confident people and continue to broaden the path of acceptance for those that follow us.
JACK MACKENROTH

“Never Blend In: The Legacy of Harvey Milk” is an important work that will inspire and lead at the same time.  Harvey’s legacy to us is one of activism, “can do” spirit and honesty.
This project authored and edited by David Watters will help certainly reach out and touch a generation of young people who will be the ones to carry on his legacy by helping transform our perceptions of the LGBT community and lay the foundation for a healthy and whole sense of self.
Rabbi Denise L. Eger
Congregation Kol Ami
West Hollywood’s Reform Synagogue
1200 N. La Brea Ave
West Hollywood, CA 90038

…we are in the fight for our very lives. NEVER BLEND IN says that we are committed to living out in the open, as we have a right to do. NEVER BLEND IN, means never settle for second best or the notion that we are “second class citizens” I will NEVER blend in.
SIMONE CAMPBELL

I always feel inspired by someone everyday. I think we should learn something new each day from anywhere or anyone. I’m inspired right now, by you, answering your intelligent questions Mr. David Watters. It’s not often I get to answer some great meaningful questions. So Bravo!!!
MARCUS PATRICK

There’s plenty of times in this world where we can feel isolated and alone and anytime we can find a source of community, a feeling of being a part of something bigger than ourselves; that can provide tremendous inspiration and solace, then that’s invaluable.
ANTHONY RAPP

 

 


DO YOU BELIEVE IN: EQUAL LOVE?


HOORAH!!!! WE NOW HAVE A FACEBOOK PAGE, TWITTER AND A WEBSITE…..

PLEASE PAY US A VISIT AND SHOW YOUR SUPPORT.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628

TWITTER: EqualLoveUK

http://equallove.org.uk/

Mission:

A simultaneous legal challenge to the twin bans on gay marriage and on heterosexual civil partnerships is being organised by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans human rights organisation OutRage!

“Starting on 2 November, eight couples will file applications at their local register offices. Four same-sex couples will apply for civil marriages and four heterosexual couples will apply for civil partnerships. Every week, through to 14 December, one couple will make an application,” said Equal Love campaign coordinator, Peter Tatchell, of OutRage!

“If the couples are turned away, we plan to take legal action. We will argue in the courts that in a democratic society gay and straight couples should be equal before the law. Both civil marriages and civil partnerships should be open to everyone without discrimination,” he said.

The Equal Love campaign’s legal case is being prepared by Robert Wintemute, Professor of Human Rights Law at Kings College London.

The official hashtag is #equalloveuk


SOME OF MY TEACHING SUCCESSES


 

BRYONY LOUISE KAY

FOR THOSE WHO HAVEN’T SEEN IT YET….HERE’S BRYONY LOUISE KAY’S NEW AD

http://www.bassettsvitamins.co.uk/in-the-news/watch-the-tv-ads.ashx

CONGRATULATIONS TO BRYONY…YET ANOTHER STAR STUDENT FROM GCC.

ALSO, ALTHOUGH SHE DIDN’T GET THROUGH, ANOTHER EX-STUDENT OF MINE ANNASTASIA BAKER DID INCREDIBLY WELL ON X FACTOR. SHE GOT TO JUDGES HOUSES AGAIN… MY GUESS IS THAT THE MARKET IS LOOKING FOR QUIRKY WHITE GIRLS BUT ANNASTASIA IS A DEDICATED AND COMMITED PERFORMER WHO WILL DO WELL REGARDLESS OF LIMITING LABELS AND SHALLOW PERCEPTIONS WITHIN THE INDUSTRY.

WHO CAN FORGET RACHEL ADEDEJI

WHO MADE IT TO THE LIVE SHOWS:

KEVIN SEVILLA IN EASTENDERS

AND ALL THE YEAR ONE AND TWO STUDENTS WHO APPEARED IN BOLLYWOOD HIT, VEER.

OH, AND…HOLLY HARRISON

WHO NOW HAS A SONY DEAL:

THERE ARE SO MANY MORE.

NOT BAD FOR A DEPARTMENT WHICH NEVER HAD ANY SUPPORT

….JUST GREAT STAFF AND A BUNCH OF LOVELY STUDENTS.

WHAT ABOUT  NANSY STERGIOPOULOU

WHO WON THE GREEK POP STARS SHOW WITH HI-5


INSTITUTIONALIZED HOMOPHOBIA….A PERSONAL STORY


A letter to Watchdog…a last ditch attempt to ask my housing association to accept responsibility for 3 years of homophobic harassment by a drug dealing neighbour.

Institutionalised homophobia DOES exist and we should NEVER  be complacent….we have a long way to go before we see a cultural shift in the perception of the LGBT community.

On the surface, it seems that society has grown more “accepting”, note the inverted commas, of the LGBT (QI) community but this, in itself, still suggests that  “acceptance” is required, that we are “less than” and that our VALUE is based upon the judgment of others. What?

ALL the “ism’s” still exist and, YES, ALL prejudices have equal importance, require of us to remain vigilant and ALL must be actively challenged.

Bigoted behaviour occurs in many different ways and can range, as YOU know, from subtle to malicious and even if Bigotry is, in theory, being addressed in the law, in policy and in procedure within schools and in the workplace, culturally the progress is much slower.

Those who hold beliefs about any specific group in society will not change those perceptions because of any law or policy.

Our physical safety was disregarded and our property stolen and damaged, yet our housing association took no real effective action.

YOU HAVE TO LAUGH AT THE HOUSING ASSOCIATIONS LOGO:

CREATING PLACES WHERE PEOPLE WANT TO LIVE

 

THE EMAIL TO WATCHDOG

I am writing to ask for an investigation into the failure of London and Quadrant to deal with drug dealing, homophobic neighbours who continually harrassed my partner and I for over 3 years.

 
Specific complaints are about Housing Officer, C McF.
 
Failure to deal with mouse infestation caused as a result of neighbours living in squalid conditions has meant damage to property costing over £2000.
 
In short, it is agreed, with MP Nick Raynsford, that an offer of £250 as “a gesture of good will” does not begin to cover the 3 years of torment (theft of mail, damage to property, daily verbal abuse, rodent infestation, criminal activity – 2 armed robberies)endured by my partner and myself, the inefficiency and ineffectiveness of certain staff (C McF in particular), the very real and serious risk to our physical safety, the impact upon our mental health as a result of this drawn out procedure and, if the neighbours had decided to stay we would still be in the same circumstances.
 
MENTAL HEALTH
 
I have been diagnosed with Depression.
 
First diagnosed as anxiety/stress on 31/5/08 when neighbours began abusive behaviour, having escaped consequences of stealing mail.
 
I have now been prescribed Paroxetine tablets (20mg) to tackle sleeplessness, social anxiety and panic attacks.
 
DAMAGE TO PROPERTY
 
The damage to property alone is more than £2000 and this in the first instance should be addressed since L&Q were aware of the rodent infestation but made no real effort to help. We live on the first floor and it is only because of our neighbours squalid living conditions that we became infested. Damage includes: sofa and chair (approx £1500), pure wool carpet (£400), new bed (£250).
 
We did everything in our power to eradicate the problem (wire wool, wood filler, environmental health) but our efforts were futile since the neighbours did nothing to deal with the problem below.
 
There were 3 months where the neighbours did not live at their address and L&Q were notified of this; giving them the right to access the property and deal with the mice.
 
PHYSICAL RISK
 
The time that Miss McF took to implement safety strategies in our home did not follow correct procedures since, after a second armed robbery at the neighbours due to their drug dealing, Miss McF took 21 days to have any work done to make us feel secure. The neighbours were clearly in fear of their safety as they immediately left the property (May 1st 2010) yet we were left vulnerable and unprotected.
 
I was informed by Operations Manager, Mr F that this should have been dealt with in 24 hours and that we should have been viewed as vulnerable tenants.
 
I have attached an extensive document of all emails sent and the few responses received over the past 2 years.
 
The offer of £250 in compensation as a “good will gesture” is frankly insulting and further compounds our belief in L&Q’s lack of care for tenants.
 
My concern is that London and Quadrant employees fail to take homophobic behaviour and anti-social behaviour seriously; lip sevice is paid and boxes are ticked but the process has taken longer than necessary considering the considerable log of evidence we have provided, the numerous occassions we have met with, emailed or spoken on the telephone with L&Q.
 
This indicates, to my partner and I, a level of institutionalised or, at best, personal homophobia within the Housing Association which needs to be addressed.
 
I can send images of mice running freely in our living room damage to property and photographs taken of the neighbours home after he had left the property (some included in the attached document).
 
I also have a voice recording of neighbour admitting theft and one of the son admitting knowledge of who had attempted an armed burglary on their property (and ours) which C McF refused to listen to.
 
We have been continually disrespected and disregarded by London and Quadrant and are again insulted and bemused by the offer of £250 to compensate; they refuse to take any responsibility and call this a “good will gesture”.
 
David Watters 
 
HOW THE NEIGHBOURS CHOSE TO LIVE
  
  
  
  
CROSS SCRATCHED ON OUR LETTERBOX AND DOOR
 
 
 
MICE IN OUR HOME…ALL TAKEN IN ONE EVENING
 
 
 
 
 
 

We can no longer wait for another Harvey Milk to follow or rely on the Peter Tatchell’s of this world, the pioneers, the visionaries, to fight our fight; but instead must learn ways to be tenacious, tireless and determined advocates for social equality ourselves.

We must, ourselves, find the strength, resolve and determination to lead and influence the change we want to see, to bring hope to those who have none. Somehow in some way we too can be capable of great things.

As Harvey Milk said, “I know that you cannot live on hope alone, but without it, life is not worth living. And youAnd you… And you… Gotta give em hope.”

 
IF YOU LIVE IN THE UK AND HAVE PROBLEMS WITH YOUR ACCOMODATION YOU CAN CONTACT THE INDEPENDENT HOUSING OMBUDSMAN:
Write to
Housing Ombudsman Service
81 Aldwych
London
WC2B 4HN

Telephone
0300 111 3000

Minicom
020 7404 7092

Fax
020 7831 1942

Email
info@housing-ombudsman.org.uk


Spread the word…Get Involved


Simone Campbell has to be my CONTRIBUTOR OF THE DAY!!!!!!! MAYBE EVEN CONTRIBUTOR OF THE WEEK.

She is the most supportive member of our ever expanding NBI Family and has spoken about the book…you know THE BOOK on PIRATE CAT RADIO!!!

THANKS SIMONE.

James Michael McCracken has also posted some of our interview here: http://blog.hollywoodportraitartist.com/  Thanks James

Thanks also to Antoine Spiteri for mentioning the book on his site http://www.antoinespiteri.com/exile.htm

If you know of anywhere you can post a link to the group or this blog or talk about the book then please let me know.

Mail me for more information. Have a fantastic weekend ALL.

 Thank you for the overwhelming support.

Spread the word…post the link (http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=106980051654&ref=ts), tell your friends, repost your own interview and talk to anyone who cares to listen.

Email me at: never_blend_in@rocketmail.com and share your story, your thoughts and opinions and any ideas on how to get the word out.

As Harvey told the New York Times: “We don’t want sympathetic liberals, we want gays to represent gays. I represent the gay street people – the 14-year-old runaway from San Antonio. We have to make up for hundreds of years of persecution. We have to give hope to that poor runaway kid from San Antonio. They go to the bars because churches are hostile. They need hope! They need a piece of the pie!” Blessings, respect and thanks David


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