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GIVE ‘EM HOPE VIDEO CAMPAIGN – VIDEOS (SO FAR)


Director of NBI Associates, motivational speaker and writer, David E. Watters, has recently launched a youtube video campaign to inspire, encourage and uplift those who may feel disenfranchised or who may lack self-belief.
THE “Give ‘em Hope” Video Campaign IS AN INITIATIVE TO INSPIRE ALL YOUTH AND ADULTS WHO MAY DOUBT THEIR VALIDITY because ALL people, regardless of cultural heritage, physical or psychological ability, age, sexuality or gender identity, may feel self-doubt at various stages in their lives.
Watters is seeking individuals, couples and groups to share their stories, in whichever way they choose, in a bid to provide support and encouragement to anyone who may question their place in the world. These stories of living authentically, with dignity and unlimited by labels will become a powerful toolkit to help others understand how self-perception determines the path that they choose and that life need not be a self fulfilling prophecy when they improve self-concept, drive out fear and embrace new challenges as opportunities to learn and to grow.
IF YOU LIVE UNLIMITED BY LABELS…
THEN TELL US HOW IT’S DONE
Whether you are L.G. B or T…or ANY other letter of the alphabet, make and send your video to: DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk
MAKE A VIDEO AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE
SHARE YOUR STORY AND HAVE IT SHOWN ON:
THE NBI ASSOCIATES YOUTUBE PAGE: NBIassociates
THE NBI ASSOCIATES WEBSITE: 
TRANSLATIONS OF THIS PRESS RELEASE CAN BE FOUND HERE: http://neverblendin.wordpress.com/category/give-em-hope-campaign-nbi-associates/   
JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:

 

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
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OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
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OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
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OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
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OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
http://www.facebook.com/groups/226577107352368

OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
http://www.facebook.com/groups/226577107352368

OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
http://www.facebook.com/groups/226577107352368

OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html

JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
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OFFICIAL PAGE: http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html


PRESS RELEASE – GIVE ‘EM HOPE CAMPAIGN


Director of NBI Associates, motivational speaker and writer, David E. Watters, has recently launched a youtube video campaign to inspire, encourage and uplift those who may feel disenfranchised or who may lack self-belief. THE “Give ‘em Hope” Video Campaign IS AN INITIATIVE TO INSPIRE ALL YOUTH AND ADULTS WHO MAY DOUBT THEIR VALIDITYbecause ALL people, regardless of cultural heritage, physical or psychological ability, age, sexuality or gender identity, may feel self-doubt at various stages in their lives. Watters is seeking individuals, couples and groups to share their stories, in whichever way they choose, in a bid to provide support and encouragement to anyone who may question their place in the world. These stories of living authentically, with dignity and unlimited by labels will become a powerful toolkit to help others understand how self-perception determines the path that they choose and that life need not be a self fulfilling prophecy when they improve self-concept, drive out fear and embrace new challenges as opportunities to learn and to grow. 
IF YOU LIVE UNLIMITED BY LABELS…
THEN TELL US HOW IT’S DONE 
Whether you are L.G. B or T…or ANY other letter of the alphabet, make and send your video to: DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk
MAKE A VIDEO AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE
SHARE YOUR STORY AND HAVE IT SHOWN ON: 
THE NBI ASSOCIATES YOUTUBE PAGE: NBIassociates
THE NBI ASSOCIATES WEBSITE: http://www.facebook.com/groups/www.nbiassociates.co.uk    
TRANSLATIONS OF THIS PRESS RELEASE CAN BE FOUND HERE: http://neverblendin.wordpress.com/category/give-em-hope-campaign-nbi-associates/   
JOIN THE “Give ‘em Hope” GROUP ON FACEBOOK:
 
PRESS RELEASE image designed by Sherri Higgs ©

LIMITED BY LABELS? DON’T BE…


DAVID E WATTERS

I may well have been a clumsy child, and even now I often have clownish catastrophes, but this does not define me. Awkward adolescents needn’t grow into apprehensive adults but many do because they have not questioned the validity of the definition and with each ungraceful act, fresh evidence is collected to verify that the label is correct.

I remember returning, after many years away, to the Scottish city in which I had grown up.  It had been almost 15 years and the city had physically changed a great deal but sadly the attitudes of many living there remained unaltered.

I had been living in London, Brighton, briefly in San Francisco and even more briefly in Spain but, through a series of events, unfortunate or otherwise, I had found myself back in Bonnie Scotland, at my parent’s home on the banks of the River Tay.

As you can imagine, I’d been through the usual life-altering experiences (relationships, jobs, travel and at least one immensely overwhelming tragedy) of which you’ll no doubt hear more of later, and for some reason decided to visit a bar, the singular “gay” bar, that I had frequented in my misguided, underage youth.

There I was welcomed by “Fat Boab”, translated as Fat Bob, whose opening line was, “You’ve really put on the beef!” By which “Fat Boab” meant that I was perhaps a little more beefy, blimpy, bovine, bulging, bulky, burly or even chunky, dumpy, elephantine, gargantuan, gross, heavy, hefty, husky, lardy or more meaty than he recalled. I did remind him that the last time we had met was prior to my seventeenth birthday and that cream cakes and cheesy bakes can be cruel; I’d transformed from skinny vegan to slightly less slim line vegetarian.

A few days later, or perhaps that same day, in that same bar, I ran into someone else from my youth. Back then we had mutual friends, one in particular, so I sat with him and his gaggle of giggling girlfriends.

We spoke of our mutual friend and it soon became apparent that we had very different views on a number of issues. The subject changed, however, and, against my better judgment, I accepted a drink.

Trapped, and perhaps he felt the same, we talked about how our lives had been in the years since we had last met. As we chatted I could sense his unease and as I shared stories of the selected highlights from my seemingly strange and disjointed life he reacted with judgment, jealousy and, with a raised eyebrow above a jaundiced eye, he disparagingly declared,  “You’ve changed”, to which all I could retort was, “…and you haven’t”.

Please don’t think that I was intentionally cruel but, if I’m being honest, I did feel justified and even empowered by this mild statement of self recognition.

I would go so far as to say that this was a moment of epiphany from which I’ve never looked back. In this brief but meaningful interaction I realized that I HAD changed; I was no longer meek and mild or afraid to express an opinion but more confident, worldly, and yes, opinionated but at the core I was still that same 17 year old who knew right from wrong, who could instinctively detect insincerity and the really remarkable aspect of this revelation was that I actually liked myself!

The point of this story is to illustrate that the opinions of others are just that, opinions, and the labels that were attached to me, as a teenager, may or may not have been correct at the time. In believing these labels to be a true definition of myself, I acted in ways which encouraged others to similarly define me but somehow, with time and experience, I redefined myself.

My reaction to these past acquaintances sent a clear, perhaps blunt, message that I was not who they perceived me to be. I may have changed, whether this meant physically having more flesh than bone or growing a backbone but what would be the point in living if the journey didn’t involve change?


NEVER BLEND IN – WHAT’S ALL THE FUSS?


About the book

NEVER BLEND IN is an accessible book about achieving personal authenticity, a groundbreaking and vital book of exclusive celebrity and deeply personal non-celebrity interviews, which is aimed primarily at a young lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning audience. The book, however, is also of value to educators, parents, family and mental health professionals seeking insight into the LGBTQ experience.

Role models from education, entertainment, law enforcement, medical and emergency services, politics, religion and sports have participated in this much needed discourse to illuminate the reader’s journey of self-discovery and to illustrate that living a life unlimited by labels will lead to personal, professional and spiritual fulfilment.

These candid stories and wise words are a powerful toolkit to encourage, inspire, uplift and give hope to those who need it most; those who may feel disenfranchised or who may lack self-belief.

Inspired by the life of Harvey Milk and with a foreword by his nephew Stuart Milk, this book includes original and insightful interviews with actors Alan Cumming OBE (Cabaret, Spy Kids, The Good Wife), Stephen Fry (Peter’s Friends, Wilde)Anthony Rapp (Rent), Colton Ford (The Lair), Marcus Patrick (My Wife & KidsCSI: MiamiPassions and Dancing With The Stars), Scotch Ellis Loring (Frasier, Malcolm in the Middle, 24, Alias, Touched by An Angel) and Adele Anderson (Fascinating Aida); key equality advocates, educators and influencers of policy Sue Sanders (Schools Out), Charles Robbins(CEO, The Trevor Project), Stephen Williams MP,Jack MacKenroth (Project RunwayQueens of Drag: NYC), Rabbi Denise EgerLt. Dan Choi and veteran human rights campaigner, Peter Tatchell; filmmakerParvez Sharma (A Jihad for Love); musicians Darren Hayes (Savage Garden) and Levi Kreis (Tony Award winner for “Best Featured Actor in a Musical” for his role as Jerry Lee Lewis in the Broadway musical Million Dollar Quartet) ; sporting greats, NBA star, John Amaechi (author of Man in the Middle) and Olympic swimmer Bruce Hayes; transgender trailblazers Calpernia Addams, the Rev David E. Weekley (author of In from the Wilderness) and Jamison Green (author of Becoming a Visible Man); Mental Health professionals, Gladeana McMahonAntoine Spiteri and Dr. John Shafer; writers Tom Robb Smith (Child 44, The Secret Speech), Leslea Newman (A Letter to Harvey Milk),Linda Goldman (Coming Out, Coming In), Michael Musto (The Village Voice);  Del Shores (Sordid Lives) and Stephanie Silberstein (Shades of Gay); representatives from organizations including The Trevor ProjectThe Harvey Milk Foundation,PFLAGFireFLAGThe Gay Police Association andSchools Out and colleagues of Harvey Milk; Anne KronenbergDaniel Nicoletta and Tom Ammiano.

These stories of living authentically, with dignity and unlimited by labels will help readers to understand how self esteem determines the path they choose and that life need not be a self fulfilling prophecy when they improve self-concept, drive out fear and embrace new challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, eliminate self imposed limitations and cease dependence on others to provide validity.

Harvey Milk’s legacy is the growing number of proud lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) individuals who refuse to live their lives limited by the judgment of others.

The various voices in this book candidly and sincerely share their wisdom and belief that we can be an important part of society without blending in; that we can live with 100% authenticity, unlimited by labels; that we shouldn’t be expected to compromise our identity to find acceptance and everyone, regardless of sexuality or gender identity, has a right to fully live.

There is practical advice and guidance from the LGBT community on how life need not be a self-fulfilling prophecy and that by recognizing that our “truth” has been shaped through our relationships, our environment and our experiences, we can begin to change our perceptions, heighten our self-esteem and move toward our personal and professional goals with clear vision and purpose….

 

About the Author

Since graduating from The Institute of Education, University of London, David has gone on to train with LEAP, as a mediator, and is a qualified facilitator for The Pacific Institute. 

He is a writer and speaker on social inequality issues and is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK.

David is currently promoting a youtube campaign “Give ‘em Hope” and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity.

As Director of NBI Associates, David devises and delivers engaging, enjoyable and interactive workshops utilizing Cognitive Behavioural and Performing Arts strategies for individual, corporate and academic clients.

He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out and The Harvey Milk Foundation.

CONTACT INFORMATION

EMAIL: DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk


Equal Love case goes to European Court


Legal bid for gay marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships

 

 

 

Eight couples file joint application on 2 February

 

Professor Robert Wintemute outlines the legal case for equality

 

 

Photo call

9.30am, Wednesday 2 February

Corner Abingdon Street and Great College Street, SW1

(diagonally opposite the House of Lords)

Equal Love – European Court application launch

10.30am, Tuesday 2 February

Committee Room 17

House of Commons

 

 

“Eight British couples will formally file a joint legal application to the European Court of Human Rights this Wednesday, 2 February, in a bid to overturn the twin bans on gay civil marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships,” announced human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell of the LGBT human rights group OutRage!.

 

The European Court challenge will be formally announced at a meeting in Committee Room 17 at the House of Commons at 10.30am, booked in the name of Caroline Lucas MP. Ms Lucas is the keynote speaker.

 

Prior to this meeting, there will be a photo call at 9.30am, where the couples filing the European Court challenge will post their application in the red letter box at the corner of Abingdon Street and Great College Street, SW1, diagonally opposite the House of Lords.

 

Peter Tatchell is coordinator of the Equal Love campaign – www.equalove.org.uk – which seeks to end sexual orientation discrimination in both civil marriage and civil partnership law.

 

“Since November, four same-sex couples were refused marriage licenses at register offices in Greenwich, Northampton and Petersfield. Four heterosexual couples were also turned away when they applied for civil partnerships in Islington, Camden, Bristol and Aldershot,” added Mr Tatchell.

 

“All eight couples received letters of refusal from their register offices, which we are now using as the evidential basis to challenge in the European Court of Human Rights the UK’s exclusion of gay couples from civil marriage and the prohibition of straight civil partnerships. Since there is no substantive difference in the rights and responsibilities involved in gay marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships, there is no justification for having two mutually exclusive and discriminatory systems.

 

“Outlawing black or Jewish people from getting married would provoke uproar. The prohibition on gay marriages should provoke similar outrage. Arbitrarily excluding heterosexual couples from civil partnerships is equally reprehensible.

 

“The bans on same-sex civil marriages and opposite-sex civil partnerships are a form of sexual apartheid – one law for gay couples and another law for heterosexual partners. Two wrongs don’t make a right. In a democratic society, we should all be equal before the law,” said Mr Tatchell.

 

Wednesday’s launch will be chaired by Peter Tatchell, and feature Caroline Lucas MP as the keynote speaker, plus some of the eight couples and their legal advisor, Professor Robert Wintemute of the School of Law at Kings College London. He will outline the legal basis of the Equal Love challenge to the current proscriptions.

 

“Our Equal Love campaign wants both marriages and civil partnerships opened up to all couples, different-sex and same-sex. Let everyone have a free and equal choice,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

“Banning same-sex marriage and different-sex civil partnerships violates Articles 8, 12 and 14 of the European Convention on Human Rights.

 

“It’s discriminatory and obnoxious, like having separate drinking fountains or beaches for different racial groups, even though the water is the same. The only function of the twin bans is to mark lesbian and gay people as socially and legally inferior to heterosexual people.

 

“I am confident that we have a good chance of persuading the European Court of Human Rights that the UK’s system of segregating couples into two ‘separate but equal’ legal institutions violates the European Convention.  I predict that same-sex couples will be granted access to marriage in the UK and that this will be because the UK Government will eventually accept that it cannot defend the current discriminatory system,” he said.

 

See Prof Wintemute’s detailed legal arguments below.

See below a summary of countries around the world that have legislated same-sex civil marriage and civil unions.

More information:

 

Professor Robert Wintemute – 07405 027 278 or 0207 848 2356 (office)

 

Peter Tatchell – 020 7403 1790

 

www.equallove.org.uk

 

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

 

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

Professor Robert Wintemute explains the legal basis of the application to the European Court of Human Rights:

1. Why and how we are able to take the Equal Love legal case direct to the European Court of Human Rights, without first exhausting the UK courts

“We have decided to take our case directly to the European Court of Human Rights for two reasons,” said Professor Robert Wintemute.

 

“First, anyone challenging discriminatory legislation under the Human Rights Act 1998 has to worry that losing could mean being ordered to pay the UK Government’s legal costs. This happened in 2006 to a lesbian couple, Susan Wilkinson and Celia Kitzinger, when they tried to have their lawful Canadian marriage recognised as a marriage in the UK. Our government would only recognise it as a civil partnership. Their case was rejected by a High Court judge, who ordered them to pay the UK Government £25,000 in legal costs. They could not afford to appeal the decision. In contrast, individuals who lose in the European Court of Human Rights do not have to pay the UK Government’s legal costs. The eight couples bringing this joint legal action are not well off and are not in a position to take the risk of a potentially huge legal bill.

 

“Second, even if we were to win in a UK court, the Human Rights Act 1998 only allows a UK court to make a ‘declaration of incompatibility’, if the court deems legislation to be discriminatory. The Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 states that the parties to a marriage must be male and female. The Civil Partnership Act 2004 stipulates that the parties to a civil partnership must be of the same sex. A ‘declaration of incompatibility’ is not legally binding, so the UK Government is free to ignore it. Even if the declaration is made by the UK Supreme Court, the UK Government is able to say: ‘We’ll wait to hear what the European Court of Human Rights has to say.’ This limit on the powers of UK courts under the Human Rights Act 1998 is a defect in the UK’s legal protection of human rights.  Because of this defect, the European Court of Human Rights confirmed in 2008 that a ‘declaration of incompatibility’ is not an effective remedy, and does not have to be exhausted before making an application to the Court against the UK Government.”

 

2. The key points and arguments of the Equal Love legal case

 

“Our case is that the combination of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 and the Civil Partnership Act 2004 creates a system that segregates couples into two separate legal institutions, with different names but identical rights and responsibilities. The segregation of couples is based on their sexual orientations: same-sex couples are excluded from marriage, and different-sex couples are excluded from civil partnership. Under Article 14 of the European Convention on Human Rights, all differences in treatment affecting other Convention rights -  in this case the rights to marry in Article 12 and to respect for family life in Article 8 – must have an ‘objective and reasonable justification’.  The European Court of Human Rights has said that differences in treatment based on sexual orientation ‘require particularly serious reasons by way of justification’, like differences in treatment based on race, religion or sex.  The only apparent reason for maintaining the system of segregation is to use the law to mark same-sex couples as socially and legally inferior, and different-sex couples as socially and legally superior. Same-sex couples are excluded from marriage, which is the universal system for legally recognising a loving, committed, sexual relationship between two adults. This legal segregation is similar to having separate beaches and drinking fountains for white and black people, as existed in South Africa under apartheid.  It is comparable to having a system of marriage for Christians and civil partnership for non-Christians.”

 

3. Why previous ECHR rulings against same-sex marriage might not apply in our case

 

“On 24 June 2010, the European Court of Human Rights issued its first judgment in a case in which a same-sex couple was seeking the right to marry. The Court found no violation of the European Convention on Human Rights in the case of two men, Horst Schalk and Johan Kopf, who were seeking the right to marry in Austria. Although the Court ruled that Article 12 of the Convention did not yet impose an obligation on European governments to allow same-sex couples to marry, the Court changed its interpretation of Article 12, saying that it ‘would no longer consider that the right to marry enshrined in Article 12 must in all circumstances be limited to marriage between two persons of the opposite sex’. When more Council of Europe countries than the current 7 (out of 47) allow same-sex couples to marry, the Court will be willing to consider ordering all of them to do so. The number European countries that allow same-sex marriage increased from three in 2005 to seven in 2010, and could double again while this case is pending. Same-sex marriage bills are currently being considered by the parliaments in Luxembourg and Slovenia, and a bill is expected soon in Finland. With a change of government, Denmark and France may follow suit.

 

“In our case, we are not asking the Court to order Italy, Poland, Russia, Turkey, Ukraine and 35 other Council of Europe member states to allow same-sex couples to marry. Some countries in continental Europe, like Austria, do not want to allow same-sex couples to marry, because they are not ready to allow them to adopt children jointly, or to grant lesbian couples access to donor insemination. But this is not the situation in the UK. In 2002, same-sex couples in England and Wales were granted the right to adopt children jointly. In 2004, they won the right to register a civil partnership and acquire all of the rights of married different-sex couples, except in relation to assisted reproduction. In 2008, they achieved full equality in relation to assisted reproduction, including donor insemination.  We are asking the Court to require the UK Government to explain why, after taking these politically difficult decisions voluntarily, and having gone so far to ensure equality between marriage and civil partnerships, the UK should be allowed to withhold access to marriage from same-sex couples, and access to civil partnership from different-sex couples. Given that UK marriages and civil partnerships confer identical rights and responsibilities, the UK government will have to justify to the European Court its maintenance of two different institutions that discriminate based on sexual orientation.

 

“We will draw on the EU Court of Justice’s requirement of consistency, set out in its Maruko judgment in 2008. The EU Court ruled that it was up to Germany to decide whether or not to have a registered partnership law for same-sex couples, and how many rights to grant registered same-sex partners. But once Germany decided voluntarily to pass a registered partnership law, and to put registered same-sex partners ‘in a situation comparable to that of spouses’, Germany could not exclude them from survivor’s benefits under employment-related pension plans that fell within the scope of EU anti-discrimination law. EU freedom of movement law also requires consistency with regard to the immigration rights of same-sex partners who are not EU citizens, ‘if the legislation of the host Member State treats registered partnerships as equivalent to marriage’.

 

“Our case is essentially that the European Convention on Human Rights, read in conjunction with developments in European Union law, imposes an obligation of consistency on European governments that voluntarily create an institution like civil partnership, and then grant same-sex civil partners all of the rights of different-sex spouses.

 

“The European Court of Human Rights should, as a matter of consistency and for the avoidance of pettiness, require the UK and other countries in the same position, like Denmark, to take the final step and grant access to the institution of marriage. Anyone who has attended a civil partnership ceremony, and seen how similar it is to a marriage ceremony, knows how extraordinarily petty it is for the UK Government to say that a same-sex couple can have all the rights and responsibilities of marriage through an institution with a different name (civil partnership) but cannot have access to the word and institution of marriage.

 

4. Our assessment of the chances of success

 

“I am confident that we have a good chance of persuading the European Court of Human Rights that the UK’s system of segregating couples into two ‘separate but equal’ legal institutions violates the Convention.  I would predict that same-sex couples will be granted access to marriage in the UK and that this will be because the UK Government will eventually accept that they cannot defend the current discriminatory system. The UK Government should settle the case, and voluntarily introduce a bill in the UK Parliament, so that the European Court of Human Rights does not have to issue a judgment. This bill should simply repeal the twin bans on same-sex marriage and different-sex civil partnership, and give every couple, different-sex or same-sex, a choice of marriage or civil partnership, as in the Netherlands, Quebec and South Africa.  This bill would bring ‘Equal Love’ to the UK,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

 

“At this event we will announce the joint legal action to be taken by the eight Equal Lovecouples. Four same-sex couples have filed applications at register offices for civil marriages. Four different-sex couples have applied for civil partnerships. All have been refused, on the grounds that the law prohibits same-sex civil marriages and different-sex civil partnerships. It is this discrimination that we intend to challenge in the courts,” said Professor Wintemute.

 

 

Background information

 

Segregation of couples in UK law, based on sexual orientation:

 

Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, s. 11:  ”A marriage … shall be void [if] … the parties are not respectively male and female …”

 

Civil Partnership Act 2004, s. 3(1):  ”Two people are not eligible to register as civil partners … if they are not of the same sex …”

 

Countries, provinces and states with marriage for same-sex and different-sex couples:

 

17 – Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Iceland, Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, USA (Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, District of Columbia), Mexico (Federal District)

 

Countries, provinces and states with civil partnership for same-sex and different-sex couples:

11 – Australia (Australian Capital Territory, New South Wales, Tasmania, Victoria), Canada (Québec), Netherlands, New Zealand, South Africa, USA (Illinois, Nevada, District of Columbia)

 

Countries, provinces and states with both marriages and civil partnerships open to gay and heterosexual couples ie. “Equal Love”:

 

3 – Canada (Québec), Netherlands, South Africa

 

 

More information:

 

Professor Robert Wintemute – 07405 027 278 or 0207 848 2356 (office)

 

Peter Tatchell – 020 7403 1790

 

www.equallove.org.uk

 

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

 

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

 

ENDS

 

www.petertatchell.net

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VIDEO: David & Richard apply for a marriage license


DAVID EQUALITY WATTERS & RICHARD JOSEPH HULL

EQUAL LOVE CAMPAIGN


PRESS CONTACT FOR DAVID EQUALITY WATTERS

07871650806

Below is the official release from Peter Tatchell and our response to the Application Rejection.

PLEASE USE OUR QUOTES IN ANY FORM YOU LIKE.

WE ARE MORE THAN HAPPY TO TALK MORE

AS THE CAMPAIGN PROGRESSES.

We hope to humanise this campaign and show the similarities rather than the stereotyped differences between couples who are in love; gay or straight.

Links to official photos can be found here (http://www.flickr.com/photos/outrage/5225999797/in/set-72157625388419615/) and these can be used free of charge.

Background on the campaign can be found here: http://neverblendin.wordpress.com/category/equal-love-articles/

Please feel free to contact us.

Best wishes, David E. Watters & Richard J. Hull

PRESS CONTACT FOR DAVID EQUALITY WATTERS

07871650806


PRESS RELEASE

Fourth gay marriage bid rejected

Richard and David will now take legal action

Gay marriage ban violates Human Rights Act, they say

‘Equal Love’ campaign seeks gay marriages & straight civil partnerships

London, UK – 2 December 2010
http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?topic=14942&uid=35320687969

A gay couple’s application for a civil marriage licence was today refused by Greenwich register office in south-east London.

David Watters (40) and Richard Hull (49) were turned away on the grounds that UK law states that marriage partners have to be male and female.

Richard and David now plan to challenge this restriction in the courts, arguing that the ban on same-sex marriage violates the Human Rights Act – specifically Articles 14 (protection against discrimination), 12 (the right to marry) and 8 (the right to respect for family life).

Photos of David and Richard at Greenwich register office:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/outrage/sets/72157625388419615/
These photos are free to use, without charge, but please credit Chris Houston

Responding to the refusal of their request for a marriage licence, David Watters said:

“Being refused the licence didn’t exactly come as a surprise. After all, the five other couples who have gone before us have been turned away. What does surprise me is that society still tolerates homophobic discrimination in marriage law.

“My emotions are mixed. There is a great sense of sadness and anger that my love for Richard is not accorded the same respect and rights as the love that heterosexuals share.

“It is overwhelming to be part of such an historic campaign. I have an immense feeling of hope and positivity about the eventual outcome. Richard and I are here for the long haul. The justice of our claim for marriage equality will win out sooner or later,” he said.

His partner Richard Hull added:

“Like David, I am neither surprised nor shocked at the outcome today. But I am annoyed and upset that I cannot celebrate my love for David by going through a marriage ceremony; instead we are expected to settle for what I regard as second best, a civil partnership.

“Our love is no less than that shared by a heterosexual couple. Speaking as a gay man who once had a heterosexual marriage, I feel cheated. I was allowed to get married when I was engaged to a woman but I am denied this option when I want to marry David.

“I feel privileged to be joining the other couples on the Equal Love Campaign, knowing that we will eventually change the law, so that I can celebrate my love for David by marrying him. I don’t want to settle for a civil partnership which, for us, is not an adequate option,” he concluded.

David Watters is a personal development consultant, writer on equality issues and author of Never blend in: The legacy of Harvey Milk. Richard Hull is a catering manager and chef. They have been together in a relationship for six years.

See more quotes from Richard and David towards the end of this news release.

The couple’s bid is part of the new Equal Love campaign, which is seeking to overturn the twin prohibitions on gay civil marriages and heterosexual civil partnerships.

www.equallove.org.uk

The ‘Equal Love’ campaign is coordinated by human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell and sponsored by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender human rights organisation OutRage!, with the support of the Peter Tatchell Human Rights Fund.

“A similar ban on Asian or Jewish marriages would provoke fierce condemnation and mass protests. So why are so many people silent about the ban on gay marriages?” queried Equal Love coordinator Peter Tatchell, who attended the register office with Richard and David today.

“We see the Equal Love campaign as a historic quest for justice; morally equivalent to the campaigns to overturn the bans on inter-racial marriage in apartheid South Africa and the Deep South of the USA.

“Prohibiting same-sex civil marriages and opposite-sex civil partnerships is a form of sexual apartheid – one law for gay couples and another law for heterosexual partners. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

“David and Richard are the sixth of eight couples to challenge these twin bans, and the fourth same-sex couple to do so.

“They are the second same-sex couple to file an application at Greenwich register office. The first same-sex couple, Rev Sharon Ferguson and her partner Franka, applied on 2 November and were also rejected.

“A total of eight couples will file applications at their local register offices. Four same-sex couples will apply for civil marriages and four heterosexual couples will apply for civil partnerships. One couple will make an application every week until 14 December.

“We expect that all eight couples will be turned away. They will then launch a joint legal action to end sexual orientation discrimination in civil marriage and civil partnership law,” said Mr Tatchell.

See here:
http://www.populuslimited.com/the-times-the-times-gay-britain-poll-100609.html

Further information:

www.equallove.org.uk

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

STATEMENT FROM DAVID EQUALITY WATTERS

David Equality Watters (40) is a personal and professional development consultant with NBI ASSOCIATES (www.nbiassociates.co.uk), a writer on social equality and author of the soon to be published, NEVER BLEND IN: THE LEGACY OF HARVEY MILK.

Staff at Greenwich Register Office were incredibly kind, understanding and actually personally interested in the Equal Love Campaign.

We were treated, by Pam and Tom, with absolute respect. Both staff were highly professional and in fact apologised that they could not , at this time, offer us a civil marriage and wished us Good Luck with the campaign.

Both Richard and I were apprehensive, in light of how appallingly Colette and Katie were treated in Hampshire, but felt confident that we would not suffer the same indignity since Sharon and Franka had previously attended Greenwich Register Office (2 Nov 2010) and had had a positive experience.

Being refused the licence didn’t exactly come as a surprise.

After all, we know the score; five other couples have gone before us and the law, as it stands, is very clear.

What does surprise me is that society still tolerates any form of inequality.

The emotions are mixed really.

Of course there is a great sense of sadness and anger that my love for Richard is not regarded as highly or taken as seriously as the love that others, who happen to be heterosexual, share.

It is overwhelming to be part of such an historical campaign  and I have an immense feeling of hope and positivity about the eventual outcome.

This is only the first step towards changing public perceptions about the meaning of marriage and towards altering ingrained beliefs about the second class social status of same sex couples; I am well aware of this.

Richard and I are here for the long haul; truth will always win out sooner or later and if it has to take some time then so be it.

When the law is eventually changed the positive impact on society as a whole will be immeasurable. The implications for Richard and myself, for the other couples and for those who believe in the democratic right to free choice will be far reaching and profound.

I was touched that, on such a snowy day, our friends Kirsty, Leonie and Harm walked there to support us.  We are incredibly fortunate to have good friends who understand the purpose of this campaign and who view our relationship as equal to their own.

These are Richard’s thoughts on today’s events:

Richard Hull (49) is a chef and catering manager.

Like David, I am neither surprised nor shocked at the outcome today. I am more annoyed and upset that I cannot celebrate my love for David by simply going through a marriage ceremony;  instead we have to settle for, in my opinion, second best.

As David has already said, our love is no less than that shared by a heterosexual couple.

Speaking from experience as a gay man who once entered a heterosexual marriage, I feel strongly that a marriage is based more on gender than love.

I feel priviledged to be joining Peter Tatchell and the other couples on the Equal Love Campaign, knowing that we will change the law so that I can celebrate my love for David by entering into a marriage and not settling for the civil partnership which, for us, is not an adequate option.

www.equallove.org.uk

http://www.twitter.com/EqualLoveUK

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Equal-Love/163531170333628?v=wall&ref=ts

www.petertatchell.net

You can follow Peter on Twitter at http://twitter.com/PeterTatchell or join the Peter Tatchell Human Rights Campaign Facebook group at http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=35320687969

PETER TATCHELL HUMAN RIGHTS FUND (PTHRF)

Donations are requested to help fund Peter Tatchell’s campaigns promoting human rights, democracy, LGBT freedom and global justice.

Peter depends entirely on donations from supporters and well-wishers to finance his campaigns. Please donate generously to the PTHRF.

To make a donation via PayPal – or to download a donation form or a standing order mandate – go to Donations at: www.tatchellrightsfund.org/donations.htm

Please make cheques payable to: “Peter Tatchell Human Rights Fund”.

Send to: PTHRF, PO Box 35253, London E1 4YF

For information about Peter Tatchell’s campaigns: www.petertatchell.net

NEVER BLEND IN

PRESS CONTACT FOR DAVID EQUALITY WATTERS

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DEADLIEST OF SINS SPEECH – DAVID E. WATTERS


photo - Karen Kodish http://karenkodish.com/

 

FIRST DELIVERED IN TRAFALGAR SQUARE, LONDON AS PART OF THE VIGIL AGAINST HATE CRIME ORGANISED BY MARK HEALEY AND 17-24-30

My message tonight is that Somehow in some way YOU are capable of great things.

This is not a time for silence but a time to take personal responsibility, to speak out and to share our humanity; because the most deadly of all possible sins is the mutilation of the spirit and YOU, as much as anyone, can influence real social change.

Harvey Bernard Milk, and others of his generation, fought for social progress with intelligence and creativity.

Harvey talked of breaking down the closet doors, yet for many these doors remain firmly locked; bolted both inside and out.

On the surface, it seems that society has grown more “accepting”, note the inverted commas, of the LGBT community but this, in itself, still suggests that  “acceptance” is required, that we are “less than” and that our VALUE is based upon the judgment of others. (?)

ALL the “ism’s” still exist and, YES, ALL prejudices have equal importance, require of us to remain vigilant and ALL must be actively challenged.

Bigoted behaviour occurs in many different ways and can range, as YOU know, from subtle to malicious and even if Bigotry is, in theory, being addressed in the law, in policy and in procedure within schools and in the workplace, culturally the progress is much slower.

We must not allow ourselves to be defined and judged solely by sexuality or gender identity any more than we should be defined or judged by our cultural heritage, the colour of our skin, our profession, our income or even… our taste in music.

For us to effectively tackle any of the “isms”, we all must engage in actions which address discrimination and prejudicial attitudes in every area of our society; our schools and universities, our workplaces, our communities and our shopping malls.

Each and every one of us has an obligation to take responsibility for making our society safer, fairer and more inclusive and we should not rely on the good will and hard work of others to secure that just and equal society, whilst complaining that we ourselves are powerless.

Whatever YOUR strengths, whatever YOUR core character traits, there is something that YOU can do to influence change in the world.

It’s not about waving a placard or marching in a parade, unless that’s your style. Instead, it’s about finding the correct method of communication for YOU.

Sign that petition, tweet and retweet your views, repost a powerful YouTube video or an article you’ve found, Facebook or MySpace it, write to your MP, talk to, write to, email if you have to political leaders, police forces, health services, broadcasters and employers so that they too can all positively influence the way that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are perceived.

We can no longer wait for another Harvey Milk to follow or rely on the Peter Tatchell’s of this world, the pioneers, the visionaries, to fight our fight; but instead must learn ways to be tenacious, tireless and determined advocates for social equality ourselves.

We must, ourselves, find the strength, resolve and determination to lead and influence the change we want to see, to bring hope to those who have none.

Somehow in some way we too can be capable of great things.

HERE’S MY SPEECH FROM SATURDAY’S VIGIL.  FROM 3MINS ON


Invite DAVID To Speak!

Since graduating from The Institute of Education, University of London, David has gone on to train with LEAP, as a mediator, and is a qualified facilitator for The Pacific Institute.
As a teacher, David has worked in both the public and private sectors. His focus has been on inclusion with regard to Special Educational Needs and the development of Creative Partnerships.

David, who regularly writes for www.ambiente.us, One Nation and Polari, has been championed by Stuart Milk, nephew of Harvey Milk and Equality Advocate, who has said: “I love your work, which is vital to show the richness of embracing and celebrating our wonderful diversity. As Harvey would say, you’re bringing medicine into the world that the world needs! Thank you!”
His background in the arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of CBT and his passion for Equality Advocacy make him a creative and innovative program planner, facilitator and public speaker.

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INSTITUTIONALIZED HOMOPHOBIA….A PERSONAL STORY


A letter to Watchdog…a last ditch attempt to ask my housing association to accept responsibility for 3 years of homophobic harassment by a drug dealing neighbour.

Institutionalised homophobia DOES exist and we should NEVER  be complacent….we have a long way to go before we see a cultural shift in the perception of the LGBT community.

On the surface, it seems that society has grown more “accepting”, note the inverted commas, of the LGBT (QI) community but this, in itself, still suggests that  “acceptance” is required, that we are “less than” and that our VALUE is based upon the judgment of others. What?

ALL the “ism’s” still exist and, YES, ALL prejudices have equal importance, require of us to remain vigilant and ALL must be actively challenged.

Bigoted behaviour occurs in many different ways and can range, as YOU know, from subtle to malicious and even if Bigotry is, in theory, being addressed in the law, in policy and in procedure within schools and in the workplace, culturally the progress is much slower.

Those who hold beliefs about any specific group in society will not change those perceptions because of any law or policy.

Our physical safety was disregarded and our property stolen and damaged, yet our housing association took no real effective action.

YOU HAVE TO LAUGH AT THE HOUSING ASSOCIATIONS LOGO:

CREATING PLACES WHERE PEOPLE WANT TO LIVE

 

THE EMAIL TO WATCHDOG

I am writing to ask for an investigation into the failure of London and Quadrant to deal with drug dealing, homophobic neighbours who continually harrassed my partner and I for over 3 years.

 
Specific complaints are about Housing Officer, C McF.
 
Failure to deal with mouse infestation caused as a result of neighbours living in squalid conditions has meant damage to property costing over £2000.
 
In short, it is agreed, with MP Nick Raynsford, that an offer of £250 as “a gesture of good will” does not begin to cover the 3 years of torment (theft of mail, damage to property, daily verbal abuse, rodent infestation, criminal activity – 2 armed robberies)endured by my partner and myself, the inefficiency and ineffectiveness of certain staff (C McF in particular), the very real and serious risk to our physical safety, the impact upon our mental health as a result of this drawn out procedure and, if the neighbours had decided to stay we would still be in the same circumstances.
 
MENTAL HEALTH
 
I have been diagnosed with Depression.
 
First diagnosed as anxiety/stress on 31/5/08 when neighbours began abusive behaviour, having escaped consequences of stealing mail.
 
I have now been prescribed Paroxetine tablets (20mg) to tackle sleeplessness, social anxiety and panic attacks.
 
DAMAGE TO PROPERTY
 
The damage to property alone is more than £2000 and this in the first instance should be addressed since L&Q were aware of the rodent infestation but made no real effort to help. We live on the first floor and it is only because of our neighbours squalid living conditions that we became infested. Damage includes: sofa and chair (approx £1500), pure wool carpet (£400), new bed (£250).
 
We did everything in our power to eradicate the problem (wire wool, wood filler, environmental health) but our efforts were futile since the neighbours did nothing to deal with the problem below.
 
There were 3 months where the neighbours did not live at their address and L&Q were notified of this; giving them the right to access the property and deal with the mice.
 
PHYSICAL RISK
 
The time that Miss McF took to implement safety strategies in our home did not follow correct procedures since, after a second armed robbery at the neighbours due to their drug dealing, Miss McF took 21 days to have any work done to make us feel secure. The neighbours were clearly in fear of their safety as they immediately left the property (May 1st 2010) yet we were left vulnerable and unprotected.
 
I was informed by Operations Manager, Mr F that this should have been dealt with in 24 hours and that we should have been viewed as vulnerable tenants.
 
I have attached an extensive document of all emails sent and the few responses received over the past 2 years.
 
The offer of £250 in compensation as a “good will gesture” is frankly insulting and further compounds our belief in L&Q’s lack of care for tenants.
 
My concern is that London and Quadrant employees fail to take homophobic behaviour and anti-social behaviour seriously; lip sevice is paid and boxes are ticked but the process has taken longer than necessary considering the considerable log of evidence we have provided, the numerous occassions we have met with, emailed or spoken on the telephone with L&Q.
 
This indicates, to my partner and I, a level of institutionalised or, at best, personal homophobia within the Housing Association which needs to be addressed.
 
I can send images of mice running freely in our living room damage to property and photographs taken of the neighbours home after he had left the property (some included in the attached document).
 
I also have a voice recording of neighbour admitting theft and one of the son admitting knowledge of who had attempted an armed burglary on their property (and ours) which C McF refused to listen to.
 
We have been continually disrespected and disregarded by London and Quadrant and are again insulted and bemused by the offer of £250 to compensate; they refuse to take any responsibility and call this a “good will gesture”.
 
David Watters 
 
HOW THE NEIGHBOURS CHOSE TO LIVE
  
  
  
  
CROSS SCRATCHED ON OUR LETTERBOX AND DOOR
 
 
 
MICE IN OUR HOME…ALL TAKEN IN ONE EVENING
 
 
 
 
 
 

We can no longer wait for another Harvey Milk to follow or rely on the Peter Tatchell’s of this world, the pioneers, the visionaries, to fight our fight; but instead must learn ways to be tenacious, tireless and determined advocates for social equality ourselves.

We must, ourselves, find the strength, resolve and determination to lead and influence the change we want to see, to bring hope to those who have none. Somehow in some way we too can be capable of great things.

As Harvey Milk said, “I know that you cannot live on hope alone, but without it, life is not worth living. And youAnd you… And you… Gotta give em hope.”

 
IF YOU LIVE IN THE UK AND HAVE PROBLEMS WITH YOUR ACCOMODATION YOU CAN CONTACT THE INDEPENDENT HOUSING OMBUDSMAN:
Write to
Housing Ombudsman Service
81 Aldwych
London
WC2B 4HN

Telephone
0300 111 3000

Minicom
020 7404 7092

Fax
020 7831 1942

Email
info@housing-ombudsman.org.uk


Simone Campbell is SERIOUSLY funny…


SIMONE CAMPBELL

My early life….funny how we block out what we THINK does not define us. I am an East Coast gal through and through. Originally from New York. I’m the youngest of four children, and as I like to remind my Mother, the only “planned” child. My parents had two girls and a boy…so…they were hoping for another boy. I used to tell my Mother..”Meh…you got half your wish”.

Simone Campbell brings humor and humility to every aspect of her personal and professional life.

A committed advocate for true social equality, Simone models behaviors and character traits such as diligence, determination, personal authenticity and a sincerity which can only serve to encourage, inspire and motivate those who are fortunate enough to know her.

As a major supporter and vital contributor to the book, NEVER BLEND IN: THE LEGACY OF HARVEY MILK, Simone reflected on her position as a role model, “Every time I show up at an event, every time I get up in front of a classroom of kids and tell my story (I was on the Speaker’s Bureau for Community United Against Violence for about 10 years), every time I walk on stage and pick up a microphone I am keenly aware of the position I am in.

As an entertainer…and an OUT one, I have a moral responsibility to hold myself up to a higher standard. To live…above the fray. I am not sure where comedy will lead me. I’ve tried to separate being a comic and being an activist…and failed miserably, so I figured why fight it. I embrace it everyday. And I am thankful for it everyday”.

Change is often slow but it is inevitable. Change will come when social perceptions are informed by those who live with authenticity, by those who acknowledge the stereotypes but also present a wider palate which illustrates the true diversity of our wonderful human race.

In truth, it’s really quite simple and perhaps a little clichéd (clichés are clichés because often they are true)…Love will always conquer hate, courage will conquer fear and with her warm, wise and witty words, Simone Campbell will change the world…one mind at a time!

Our society, in all its grandness is flawed, and like individual people, is slow to change. It can change with people championing the cause, voting until it hurts. People need to tell their stories. Shout from the rooftops that we will NOT go quietly into that good night, and to lead with the one thing we know is universal….LOVE.

DAVID WATTERS
AUTHOR OF NEVER BLEND IN: THE LEGACY OF HARVEY MILK

http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk

http://neverblendin.wordpress.com/

—UPCOMING SHOWS—

8/6- The Comedy Store, LA
8/7 -The Riviera Palm Springs
8/8- NONSTOP FLIGHT COMEDY. Spitfire Grill, Santa Monica
9/7 Castegnola’s in SF 8PM
9/16 Castegnola’s in SF 8PM
9/18 Castegnola’s in SF 8PM


JACK MACKENROTH IS…


  

Jack Mackenroth is a Fashion Designer, TV Producer and host who is probably still best remembered for Project Runway and as an inspirational and motivational advocate for HIV awareness.

 

He is currently working on producing a TV show called the Queens of Drag: NYC, is writing a much anticipated memoir, is still designing commissioned pieces, travels the United States speaking about HIV and hosts a radio show, POZIAM, every Sunday night.

 (A full bio is on jackmackenroth.com)

 

 

The following article is based on two separate interviews with Jack on Tuesday 11 August 2009 and Sunday 4 April 2010.

All copyright rules apply.

 

 NEVER BLEND IN: THE LEGACY OF HARVEY MILKThis book is crucially important because we need to continually shed light on the struggles and adversity facing the LGBT community. We can never become complacent in our fight for equal rights and we need to remember the trailblazers who ignited the spark for the flame of progress that burns today. As role models following in the legacy of others like Harvey Milk, we need to stand as proud confident people and continue to broaden the path of acceptance for those that follow us.

JACK MACKENROTH

 

 LOOKING BACK BUT MOVING FORWARDS

THE JOURNEY…SO FAR

 Describe your journey to where you are now. What led you toward the sort of work you do now? What was it about your personal and/or professional journey that brought you to this type of work?

I think my success came from facing adversity. I was always teased and taunted in my youth for being effeminate so I took solace in one of my natural talents which was art. It helped me escape and feel pride in something that I was good at doing.

 

Jack describes himself now as “Supergay” but also as “Artistic, Athletic and Confident”. As a child he recalls being labelled as girly and shy and as a teen, effeminate, gay, sissy, alternative and artistic by all of his peers and classmates.

Now, although these were pretty accurate, “I didn’t appreciate the slanderous adjectives”, Jack confides, since, “they definitely affected my self confidence. I was SO self conscious of being effeminate and androgynous when I was young that it prevented me from doing a lot of things. I only really accepted myself and started loving the way I was in the last 10 years of so. I knew I was gay from kindergarten but I denied even thinking about the possibility until I was a senior in high school.

One aspect of my artistic endeavors was making my own clothes. I taught myself to sew when I was 13 and I didn’t really care about what my peers thought about what I made and how I wore it. In a sense I was taking control of their mockery by blatantly being proudly different. That just naturally evolved into going to UC Berkeley for Fine Arts and the Parsons School of Design for Fashion Design. All the pieces just seemed to fall into place.

I didn’t have a lot of role models back then. Remember it was about 1986 so there were not many gay role models in the media and certainly not very positive ones. I do remember hearing about Harvey Milk which was inspiring but also scary because there was so much hatred surrounding the public’s opinion of him.

Well I went to UC Berkeley for my undergraduate education and it’s one of the most liberal schools in the country so I found my ‘people’ there who let me be whoever I wanted to be and celebrated that.

How have your family responded to your sexuality, was coming out a difficult process, did you ever experience feelings of self-doubt, low self-esteem as a result of your sexuality? 

Well I came out in 1987 so the perception of gay people was a much different. My family is very liberal and was very accepting. I don’t have a relationship with my father and my parents were divorced when I was 8. I really don’t know what he thinks about it. Coming out was difficult because back then there were not a lot of role models so I thought I was the only one. I didn’t really even remember knowing the word “gay”. However when I went to Berkeley, which is one of the most liberal universities in the US, I met a lot of other gay people very quickly and everything just clicked. I did have feelings of low self esteem initially before I came out because I was consistently teased in high school and I was in extreme denial about my sexual orientation. Once I came out it was like a giant weight was lifted. Finding out that I was HIV+ in 1990 was like I had to come out all over again. That came with a whole new set of self-esteem issues.

ROLE MODELS  If young people see LGBT adults living happy, successful lives then they have hope and that is extremely powerful. I get emails from teenagers all the time saying thank you for being open and that I inspire them in some way. Hopefully role models help pave the way for an easier coming out experience. 

 

Visibility plays a huge part in normalizing LGBTQ orientation. Unfortunately, often the most visible queer archetypes are the most sensational and stereotypical.

 

We are definitely seeing more LGBT characters in the media. Especially with the advent of ‘reality’ television. I think it’s a great way for people to see LGBT individuals living regular lives.

 

It’s hugely important for popular sports figures, musicians, actors, politicians and local figures to come out at the height of their careers because it garners a ton of press and there are still large parts of the population that don’t believe that LGBT individuals are EVERYWHERE. 

 

“teachable moments”  I have always set high standards for myself but I think that was instilled in me by my mother. I never really modeled my life after someone. I have had role models that I have looked up to, or people’s careers that I wanted to emulate but I always took my own path.

 

In high school I had an art mentor named Robert Fulghum who went on to become a bestselling author. During the end of my senior year I was not accepted into my top 3 schools that I applied to, Harvard, Princeton and Stanford. UC Berkeley was my back up choice. I was complaining to him about it one day and he told me he thought Berkeley would be a perfect place for me to discover myself. I think he knew something I was not quite ready to acknowledge. He was right and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. 

 

Because of my appearance on Project Runway I receive countless emails of gratitude from people all over the world. I am constantly amazed by how many people watched that show and were moved by the fact that I disclosed my HIV+ status. Once at an award show Margaret Cho came up to me and told me she loved me. I was speechless. 

 

I take it seriously. I receive FB messages and emails on a daily basis from people thanking me for being visible as an HIV+ person. I know I have saved lives–which is so humbling and amazing. I’ve had people tell me they were going to kill themselves because they found out they were HIV+ and then they read something about me or saw me on TV and changed their mind. That is my greatest achievement to date. 

 

 

 THE LEGACY OF HARVEY MILK

Well he was really a trailblazer in the face of such adversity. There are so many role models now in all arenas of the LGBT community. I could make an endless list of people who are proudly out and making a difference in almost every arena of LGBT culture. Christine Quinn, Barney Frank, Rachel Maddow, Suze Orman, Ellen Degeneres, Candis Cayne, Billy Bean….it goes on and on…

 

 

CLOSING COMMENTS 

AN AUTHENTIC LIFE

I am very close to living a full authentic life. Since Project Runway I’ve really been publicly scrutinized in the press and blogs so it forced me to be very cognisant of how I behave. It’s a lot of pressure but I think it made me a better person in a weird way. I’ve always been very open and honest. However I am always striving to be better. I think my public persona is always very funny and upbeat and optimistic. I have total crap days too which is totally normal and I let myself have them without beating myself up about it.

I am not a religious person so I live strictly by the principle that I should treat other people the way I would want to be treated. I know what the ‘right’ thing is to do in most circumstances and I try to do it.

 

I hope I am an example of self-confidence, discipline, honesty, giving back to the community and a strong work ethic. 

I think lying to yourself or trying to squelch some sort of truth takes an incredible amount of energy. They say you are only as sick as your secrets.

People do not have a choice regarding their sexual or gender orientation. Everyone, no matter what their circumstances, just wants to be accepted for exactly who they are without judgment. Treat them as equals. Get involved in advocacy or support groups like PFLAG.

 

I try to treat others as I would want to be treated. I believe in Karma in my own way. I think if you put good things out into the universe then good things will come back to you.

Progress is being made. It’s a slow, continuous battle. People naturally fear things that are unfamiliar to them. We need to keep inundating society with positive role models of minority groups and eventually our similarities will outweigh the perceived differences.

Just accept people for who they are. It’s that simple. You don’t have to agree with everyone but you have no right to judge. We are all equal.  Just know that there are millions of other people just like you living happy, well-adjusted lives. You will find your way. 

 

 

 GOALS & THE MEANING OF LIFE…What gives your life meaning? 

Art, Beauty, my family, being an advocate for HIV+ people and the LGBT community.

What are your goals both personally and professionally? 

I have so many. Sort of like to be doing a bunch of things at once. I’m working on producing a TV show called the Queens of Drag: NYC, I’m writing a memoir, I still design commissioned pieces, I travel all around the country speaking about HIV and I have my radio show, POZIAM every Sunday night. I look at every new opportunity as an adventure. I don’t have any specific ultimate goal professionally.  However personally I would like to get married and get a dog. But I probably have to find a boyfriend first.

 

 

 

JACK MACKENROTH LINKS

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http://www.blogtalkradio.com/poziam

 


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