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“I can highly recommend David for his ethics, his talent, and his dedication to nurturing individuality and originality through his fine writing. David uses the gift of the written word to inspire leadership by preserving the memory of historical visionaries who dared to be different. His essays on Harvey Milk and his determination to “never blend” preserve an important man and time in history while encouraging all of us to realize that we all have the power to change history ourselves on a grass-roots level with community outreach and activism.” January 11, 2011

Joe MannettiContract Clinician, Waterford Youth Services Bureau
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“I had the opportunity to work with David as part of his team in the performing arts department. During that time David had a great leadership styles that enable his staff to develop at their own pace, while maintaining a high standard for his team. His advice and support for CPD has been extremely beneficial which has resulting in me writing development programs. Furthermore, David’s passion on the subject of equality and diversity was very inspirational. With this in mind, I recommend David as a leader who can write about our unique experience’s in and outside the working environment. Hope to work with him in the near future.” September 18, 2010

Michael NobleOwner, IyPSchool

“I value David’s work.” August 25, 2010

Michael Carosone, M.A., M.S., M.S.L.I.S.Writer, michaelcarosone.com


“David Watters is a tireless advocate of social justice and engaging writing. Working with David on a community service project in San Francisco, with him in England, was a breeze, fun and highly effective. I recommend his services, charm and, most importantly, passion for any advocacy needing to be done.” August 21, 2010

Melton CartesChief Ad Guy, AnAdGuy.com
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“David’s work was outstanding. The depth of knowledge and accuracy was just what was required for the features he wrote for us.” August 21, 2010

Top qualities: Great Results, High Integrity, Creative

Andrew Howard,
hired DAVID EQUALITY as a Writer/Editor in 2009, and hired DAVID EQUALITY more than once


“David has a gift with words. His writing is eloquent and polished. The stories he writes are entertaining and well driven. His poetry is lyrical and full of emotion. David is simply a wonderful author that would be an asset to any English language publication.” August 10, 2010

was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“David Watters is a hard-working, tireless advocate for social justice and I recommend him highly in any capacity!” July 28, 2010

Lesléa NewmanWriter and Writing Consultant, Write from the Heart
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“David writes excellent work dealing with coming out issues for LGBT college students. Having a good body of literature to draw from when coming and when dealing with LGBT issues while in college is essential; and helps break down the barriers between different communities.” July 28, 2010

Maria Mizz M YorkContributing Writer, Bi Social Network
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“DAVID WATTERS is not a relative, although I’d be proud to be in his family. David is a fine writer and passionate advocate, a man who boldly uses his intellect, wit and sense of fairness to every project he undertakes. If you are looking for the spark to ignite your plan, call DAVID WATTERS.” July 27, 2010

Willie Wattersattorney/author, attorney/author
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“David is a person of unrivalled integrity, who has great passion for his art and for whom I have the greatest respect.” July 27, 2010

Matthew KolakowskiCurriculum Leader, Greenwich Community College worked with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“David is a rare individual. Someone with a cause but also someone who is pragmatic. He understands his area but also the way the world thinks and is not judgemental but someone who looks for a ‘win/win’. This is rare but is the measure of the man. I would heartily recommend him for his intelligence, people ability and pragmatism.” July 27, 2010

Gladeana McMahonDirector, Gladeana McMahon Associates
worked directly with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“I have worked with a myriad of Harvey Milk related researchers in recent years and I wish they were all as thorough and considerate as Mr. Watters. I trust him and his workmanship implicitly.

Dan Nicoletta” July 27, 2010

Daniel Nicolettaowner, Photography by Daniel Nicoletta
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“David is excellent with timelines, content and substance in all of his work. His thought-provoking articles have been a huge hit with our readership in Ambiente Magazine. We welcome Mr. Watters work as often as he can provide it!

Herb Sosa
Editor In Chief
Ambiente Magazine
http://www.ambiente.us” July 27, 2010

Top qualities: Great Results, Expert, High Integrity

Herb Sosa,
hired DAVID EQUALITY as a Writer/Editor in 2009

“David is a great writer and recommended highly.” July 27, 2010

Melissa RobinsonCredit Management, Qwest Communications Corp.
worked directly with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS


“David is an extraordinary writer and freelance journalist. His work is always cutting-edge and his writing skills nearly flawless. His articles focus on the most urgent of human issues facing the planet and his attention to detail make his articles a very informative alternative source of news and important information. His perspective is unbiased and his work is always outstanding.” July 27, 2010

CQ ScafidiAuthor, Time Logistics Couriers
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“Never Blend In: The Legacy of Harvey Milk by David Watters offers an innovative approach to a subject that has been taboo for such a long time. Dedicated to the cause, David aims to help clarify that equality is not about race and gender it’s about fairness and the freedom. It’s imperative that we are all treated alike and not individualised. David’s book explores the sometimes traumatic journeys others have taken and faced, their struggle to come to terms with not only themselves but, the prejudices they have endured along the way. It’s about survival and acceptance. A unique compilation of compelling stories. An awe inspiring piece of work. David’s writing is reaching out to all.” July 27, 2010

Julie NortonPart Qualifiied Accountant, Unemployed and looking for work. was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS

“David is very proactive. He contacted me about his new book ‘Never Blend In’ – told me about the book and I decided to do an interview with him. He quickly articulated interesting answers to the questions I put to him and his story made for a very intriguing article.

I have already approached David about working with him again in future as I strongly agree with the direction of his work.” July 27, 2010

Will AstburyEditor/Director, Manchester Mouth
was with another company when working with DAVID EQUALITY at VARIOUS





Stuart Milk, nephew of Harvey Milk and Equality Advocate, has said: “I love your work, which is vital to show the richness of embracing and celebrating our wonderful diversity. As Harvey would say, you’re bringing medicine into the world that the world needs! Thank you!”

I think that out of everyone in society LGBT people, especially LGBT youth, are subjected to most negative energy and the most negative portrayals of themselves and so it’s really important for us as a community to give back and to let people see that the sun can shine





“I have worked with a myriad of Harvey Milk related researchers in recent years and I wish they were all as thorough and considerate as Mr. Watters. I trust him and his workmanship implicitly. Dan Nicoletta”

July 27, 2010

Daniel Nicoletta , owner , Photography by Daniel Nicoletta

He (Harvey Milk) had great confidence in me; I really felt that the basic message was “you can do it”. He was a cheerleader first and then he would deconstruct content second. I think there was always this attention to helping somebody really feel that they can make their way. If you look at his speeches that’s there; there’s really this broad stroke that’s about positivity and confidence so you’re on the right path in terms of carrying on his work that way.

For me as a care professional, working in chem-dependency, to have any kind of guidebook that talks about self-esteem or how to keep people from committing suicide…I’m all for it. The few kids that have shown up that had suicide ideation, quite honestly, I didn’t have a template for what to tell them so I had to rely upon my intuition but I have no idea if I’m doing the right thing. I definitely feel that the therapeutic community, the psychological therapeutic community has a role to play in LGBT civil rights and I applaud you for doing this.

I was reading some of your pages on your website and I thought, “This is the antidote to my suicidal friend. If he could just read this, it would help him rephrase what he is defaulting to now.”



For young people coming to terms with their sexuality it’s really important that they have positive, high achieving role models as a way of boosting their self esteem and confidence. This kind of book shares the experience of a very diverse group of LGBT people. Individual and collective experience offers the inspiration and motivation for LGBT people to do something worthwhile with their lives and live their dream.



There are two ways you can approach not fitting in.  If you get to see it as a blessing, feeling like an Outsider can eventually give you the freedom and license to create your own world, follow your own goals, and make your own reality.  I’ve always thought it must be a lot harder for those who effortlessly belong – how much stronger the temptation to just blend in and be a non-questioning sheep!  Yes, there is pain. Feelings of rejection, confusion, self-doubt.  But think of those negatives in a positive light:  you have the chance to acquire resilience, fortitude, understanding and the realization but you have one life to live, so you absolutely have the right to live it your way!

It’s no shame to get help and inspiration from others, which is why David Watters ‘Never Blend In’, is so timely.



At all times, but especially as an adolescent you need to be told “You are not alone” – there is no more positive and euphoric feeling than the discovery that others, including people of courage, genius, insight, passion, talent and charm felt the kind of feelings you feel. Especially when society, religion and the world tell you that those feelings are wrong.

I have to modify that with this point though: some people growing up LGBT will certainly want affirmation that they are not alone, but they will also (quite rightly IMHO) resist the idea that there is a “type” and that they fall into a categorisation. Such is the human paradox, yearning to assimilated and demanding to be treated as unique and apart. A part of the tribe and apart from the tribe. There are plenty of young LGBT people I know or have known who hate the idea of any sort of ghetto or connection with others. I’m Jewish and I’ll fight against anti-Semitism, but I’ll also raise issues about Israel’s violations of human rights and express my happy atheism and contempt for much of Judaism… It’s not a question of “hurrah, there’s a role model, now I know who I am and who my people are and where I belong in the world.”



Role models are described as those individuals who we ‘aspire to’ and who provide strong and achievable targets that we can emulate in pursuit of our career or personal aims. This book breaks down the common stereotypes of gay people and unveils a more realistic perspective, chronicling the success of many gay role models that others aspire to.


In “Never Blend In” David Watters has brought together a number of role models in one publication featuring successful gay artists, scientists and entrepreneurs, who share their experiences and take you on their journey.  These are men and women with whom you can relate, whose stories will inspire and motivate you and leave you ready to move forward, both personally and professionally.

Be inspired by the successful members of the gay community; real men and women. Read about the challenges they faced along the way, what helped to keep them going, and what it takes to make a small business, a life, a success.

This book illustrates the breadth and creativity of gays everywhere.  It is a pioneering work and the success stories of inspirational gay role models from a wide variety of backgrounds should be made available in every library, every school.  These are men and women you can aspire to but who have all shown just what it takes to become a role model – determination, courage and an unwavering desire to succeed.

“Never Blend In” brings you some amazing candidates all of whom have succeeded in very different ways. They each have inspiring stories to tell about their achievements and future ambitions, yet I noticed they all had one thing in common they were passionate about what they did.

So in reality gays are still struggling for acceptance and to reach the top of the ladder. However, I think for the gay who enters the celebrity arena or who decides to do his/her own thing – they no longer have to do it at the expense of their happiness- they can do things on their own terms. For many it will provide them with the work/ life balance that wasn’t available for them in the past.  It’s vital we have gays in big business and we need more gays to be there. I think companies need to realize they can’t operate without gays.  But they do need to provide the very thing we all tend to take for granted – the basic right of being given the same opportunities and earning power as str8 men.  We are mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, lovers, and friends. We are like you.


Anthony Spiteri, BS, MSc, PhD (Psychology)



The book NEVER BLEND IN is a provocative look into the lives of successful people who live in a world where the odds are stacked against us. It is important to give hope to the younger generation with diverse sexual orientations to see that we can be happy, healthy, and successful players in this game we call life.  I hope by telling my story in this book, I can, in some small way, make life easier for those who march to the beat of a different drum.  I am a rebel with a cause…you can either march with me, or step out of my way.

I am excited to order several copies of your book and share them with friends and family as gifts. I may try to use it with one of my classes that I teach at my college on the psychology of diversity.

Director of the Counseling Center and Professor at Franklin College of Indiana, President, Shafer Consulting Services


As one of the leading personal development and transformational coaches in the UK, Gladeana was instrumental in founding the Association for Coaching for which she now holds the positions of Life Fellow and Vice President.

The Book that David Watters is proposing is long overdue as there is little written on the topic of LGBT issues.

Positive role models are important to individuals whether they be LGBT individuals talking about their experiences or the family and friends of such individuals who can model acceptance and positive affirmation.  Therapists are likely to be interested in such a book in a bid to understand the specific needs of those who identify as LGBT considering the best ways to work with such individuals and/or their families.  Academics are likely to find the book useful in considering issues around diversity and, of course, the general public will also benefit as a book of this sort educates the reader. This book will also help LGBT individuals to understand their situation and consider how to develop a deep and meaningful sense of self-worth.  It will also help such individuals understand how best to help those around them to understand their situation as much as it will educate family and friends.


NEVER BLEND IN, and the efforts of writer David Watters, is a brilliant collection and resource of openly LGBT and successful role models across the globe.  The value to all, especially for the younger generation, is paramount.  The presentation of individuals who are successful, determined, active and visible in our communities will undoubtedly inspire all who read this collection, to do better, become a better person, and strive for greatness in their lives and that of others.

The LGBT community has often been portrayed in a less than favorable light – NEVER BLEND IN rips that inaccurate veil off, and offers a face and portrait of today’s LGBT community, its leaders, history, accomplishments and potential.


Herb Sosa, Editor|Publisher – Ambiente Magazine

& President – Unity Coalition|Coalicion Unida





“NEVER BLEND IN is a vital project that is sure to make a difference in many young (and not so young!) lives. As the author of HEATHER HAS TWO MOMMIES, I have seen firsthand how important it is for children to see a family like theirs portrayed in the media. It is just as important for teenagers and adults to see themselves represented in books, in film, and on TV.

By showcasing people who are out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender and living authentic lives, David Watters is sending an important message to those struggling to come out and be out: You CAN be yourself and live a full, satisfying, meaningful, and glorious life.”–

Lesléa Newman




This book is crucially important because we need to continually shed light on the struggles and adversity facing the LGBT community.

We can never become complacent in our fight for equal rights and we need to remember the trailblazers who ignited the spark for the flame of progress that burns today.

As role models following in the legacy of others like Harvey Milk, we need to stand as proud confident people and continue to broaden the path of acceptance for those that follow us.




“Never Blend In: The Legacy of Harvey Milk” is an important work that will inspire and lead at the same time.  Harvey’s legacy to us is one of activism, “can do” spirit and honesty.

This project authored and edited by David Watters will help certainly reach out and touch a generation of young people who will be the ones to carry on his legacy by helping transform our perceptions of the LGBT community and lay the foundation for a healthy and whole sense of self.

Rabbi Denise L. Eger

Congregation Kol Ami

West Hollywood’s Reform Synagogue

1200 N. La Brea Ave

West Hollywood, CA 90038




…we are in the fight for our very lives. NEVER BLEND IN says that we are committed to living out in the open, as we have a right to do. NEVER BLEND IN, means never settle for second best or the notion that we are “second class citizens” I will NEVER blend in.


I always feel inspired by someone everyday. I think we should learn something new each day from anywhere or anyone. I’m inspired right now, by you, answering your intelligent questions Mr. David Watters. It’s not often I get to answer some great meaningful questions. So Bravo!!! MARCUS PATRICK



There’s plenty of times in this world where we can feel isolated and alone and anytime we can find a source of community, a feeling of being a part of something bigger than ourselves; that can provide tremendous inspiration and solace, then that’s invaluable.




In the world of “Lost Hope” for the youth of the World this book stands as a beacon of light that others have travelled the road before. “Be true to yourself” & “Never Blend In”.



Never Blend In,” is so absolutely crucial to our very survival.  For when we first discovered our difference, we believed we were alone.  This is why statistically, gay teen suicide attempts are four times that of heterosexual youth, and for every completed suicide by a gay youth, there are between 100-200 attempts that are made by other gay teens.  Astoundingly, one-third of ALL teenagers who commit suicide do so because they are gay.  In America, we have had as many as 11 teenagers a day commit suicide due to their sexual orientation!  “Never Blend In” provides a guiding light for all LGBT people (in fact, for all non-LGBT people as well) because it demonstrates that not only are you not alone, but that you too can rise to attain your most desired dreams.  There is nothing and no one that can hold you back.

Harvey Milk paved the way for us all to be able to be ourselves and to simultaneously provide a role model for others. Whether you are the parent, uncle, or cousin of a gay child, or friend of a gay adult, the stories presented here give a unique insight into the relationships we cherish.  You do not need to be gay to be inspired by the lives of these amazing heroes, whose stories are told, often for the first and only time, in “Never Blend In.”





As a parent bringing up a straight and a gay child, I think one of our messages to our children was ‘be yourself’ in all things – think for yourself, dress for yourself, and don’t be afraid to stand up and be recognized for who you are or what you believe in. Never Blend In is all of these positive messages.                                                            IRENE MILLER


Never Blend In is about more than being gay, straight, or whatever orientation. It’s about the importance of building a life appropriate for you–the real you. Harvey Milk encouraged us to give EVERYONE hope, and this work does just that, showing people that they can live happily and well no matter WHO they are.



I have always been separated from the rest…I have always forged my own path despite the obstacles of being different. The true leaders in all social realms are the individuals. These are the people who are not afraid of closed doors, untraveled paths, and at the end leaders into uncharted territory…Thank you for allowing us to tell our tale. I am and always have been comfortable in my own skin although I know it’s not a suit most would choose to wear…Thanks for giving me the forum to express that. Best of Luck to you…(I know you don’t need it)





NBI is likely to be encouraging to anyone who isn’t ‘normal’, with the vital message, Be Yourself – normality is at fault! “



Adolescence is an emotional minefield for any boy or girl. For gay teens, navigating that treacherous minefield can be especially challenging.

NEVER BLEND IN is a wildly valuable source of comfort, support and inspiration for young people at this most vulnerable time in their lives.

I applaud David Watters for providing a book that offers a valuable lesson to all young people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation: be comfortable in your own skin, make the most of your own unique assets and never fall for the trap that “being like everybody else” is better, smarter or easier.




NEVER BLEND IN is a perfect title because as the book it requires you to surmise your own individual independent meaning. For me…To NOT be a follower…to think for yourself, and to be authentic and pure.


NEVER BLEND IN is a defiant title. It is almost like an elder’s advice – ‘Hey, Kid, Whatever you do & however you live remember – “Never Blend In!”‘. TUHIN CHATURVEDI






About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (www.pacificinstitute.co.uk), personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer. View all posts by neverblendin

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