I read the following testimony in a wonderfully supportive facebook group and have asked permission to post it here. I’m certain that there are visitors to our Give ’em Hope page and our group who will find this inspiring and encouraging:

“I am 43 years old and spent my life sacrificing my thoughts and feelings to please other people by being who THEY wanted me to be…I’ve purged many times, lost many relationships and friends.

None of that mattered in the least, the day that i told my children (20g, 17b, 15g) who i really was inside. Nothing ive ever said or done before in my life was as scary, as exciting, as terrifying as telling them i wanted to be a woman! They barely blinked an eye when they said ‘all these years you taught us to accept people for who they are, not what we want them to be. You are still Dad, and you have to be who you are.’

Imagine my relief and the weight that has been sitting on my shoulders for as long as i can remember just floated away! They know and not only simply accept it, but also embrace it as part of who i am!

Darlings, I say all that to say this…i see and hear how many of you are struggling with coming out, being who you are and actually feeling real from the inside out. Those of you who are still young, don’t waste your life pleasing others.

Love should conquer all i know, but it does not, no matter how much we want it to. The only love that is worth any and everything is loving yourself first. We all have lost loves in our lives…family, friends, lovers…if you cant love yourself first, how can we expect to know what real love truly is?

Love yourself gurls! Don’t hide in that closet! Come out and let them know who you are…hope for the best, yet prepare for the worst…be true to yourself…it will only make you stronger! And so much more happier?”



A PRO-EQUALITY BLOG, written by Diversity Specialist, writer and motivational speaker David E Watters (NBI ASSOCIATES).

Articles on Equality & Diversity, Personal & Professional Development, Education & Management; his book, NEVER BLEND IN (http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Never-Blend-In.html), and the Give ’em Hope Campaign http://www.nbiassociates.co.uk/Give–em-Hope-Campaign.html)

EMAIL: DavidWatters@nbiassociates.co.uk
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About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (www.pacificinstitute.co.uk), personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer. View all posts by neverblendin

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