In a bid to make something good out of something that is quite the reverse, I asked Annette to share this experience with us. Please read, comment and share.
I just had a very “lively” BUT uneven exchange with someone and they brought up so many deviant behaviors exhibited by pedophiles to prove that gay is not a good choice nor are people “born that way”. His views were disguised as a survey of his closest friends on the existence of gays but it was just a homophobic buffet of fears, false assumptions and erroneous conclusions amongst victimized men who have pegged gays as over-sexualized perverts based on their narrow and highly suspect experiences. I think he also mentioned that many lesbians were really young girls who were damaged by men and just “trying it out” who ultimately return to enjoying the “natural penetrative desires/pleasure” of a man eventually. All of that may be true. Just as many people try to follow the straight path and eventually come out as gay or bi at some other point in their lives, but does that change the reality that gay is here to stay or that it’s the real deal for so many people – many who were born that way? NOOOOOO! Whether you are born gay or realize you’re gay at 60 makes me no difference. Bottom line – no part of this debate changes the law or the turning tide of social acceptance in this country. Tantrums won’t change a blessed thing. Gay is not a “trend” either. Gays have families and contribute to the growing poplulation. The perpetuation of society is not threatened by gays. (Geessh – that’s such an antiquated argument) We are not all responsible for gay predatory assholes either. We have them too just as there are straight predatory assholes. Also a pedophile is a pedophile is a pedophile. Please grow some discernment and realize that they prey upon children! Sexual abuse is not the same as same sex loving nor sexual identify – that’s sexual deviancy – you cannot classify them as “same sex loving”. They have a sickness. Now if you all excuse us – we have a life to live. Get over it. Stop being disrespectful and vomiting your ignorance all over everyone because you fear losing some of your friends to the gays. Some people just always obsess over the women they can’t have or the populations they fear they will lose and create these horrible last ditch effort arguments which are really tantrums! Stop seeing women as property for starters! Stop trying to lead your movement with your genitals/genitalia because your own ass is showing. #theend
Annette Brent (Coach Brent http://www.annetterbrent.com/)
Brent’s website, About Me Section, tells us this about our latest contributor:
“My practice is in New Jersey. I work within the LGBT community and allies as well. Why the LGBT Community? Well as someone who has been out for over 30 years – that is a large part of my identity. I remember all the struggles I endured as a gay, teenage female – of color It made me who I am today. I cannot ignore nor will I forget many of those chapters – coming out to my family, losing and regaining them and myself over and over, dealing with gender identity and defining and accepting myself finally by my own measures vs. others. On many days, there was a force much greater than me that carried me through. As cliche’ as it might sound – it is a truism – we are all spiritual beings having a human experience. So rest assured that spirituality is the foundation of my work and my life.
I specialize in transforming and rebuilding relationships and I bring my entire body of experience into my work. I get the most joy from witnessing the beautiful metamorphosis that takes place when clients start rebuilding their own relationship with self! No matter what other relationships in your life might be suffering – the one with yourself – is the driving force. I also work with individuals and couples seeking to gain clarity about the relationships in their lives and also help women through relationship transitions – whether it be breakups or loss. When clients finish working with me they report a better sense of self-worth, they are more “in-touch” with their inner self and they reactivate their vision! You see – once you get back to self – much of the rest becomes history as you are able to shift more into NOW.
I conduct one-on-one coaching and I’m also a motivational speaker. I’ve presented to mixed audiences on topics about stress, spirituality, overcoming barriers to success and more. I have a Blog Talk Radio show called “The Get Rich Show” aimed at enriching the inner lives of my listeners.”