He now says he’s known for almost a decade, even though marrying a woman and having kids. He created that mess of a lie. Some people have bravery in different areas. He didn’t feel as a black male athlete that he would be respected or taken seriously by being openly gay.
Of course having the integrity to be yourself should prevail. But let’s point out something no one is talking about. Life and death. When I came out in the military in the mid 80’s I was disowned by my family, taken out of the will and lost friends and the military was challenging on epic levels. But somehow I had confidence in myself and felt strong. Then I was harrassed and had death threats. I have stitches in my head from a hate attack. It’s real. It’s often real hard.
Yusaf became suicidal when he was outed because of the backlash. He’s received death threats. His oldest daughter told him he was an embarrassment, and to go kill himself. Yusaf was wrong to lie. But life is serious. And precious. And NO one deserves to die.
Yes, I’m a little scared for him. His story makes me sad. Society and media make it seem coming out is easy and everyone is open and accepting. You probably are. Many are not.
Right now I wish I could call up my parents and other family members for love and support. Trying to make it in San Francisco, I sure could use the financial support. I gave all that up, and sometimes I feel lonely and needy. But I struggle proudly on my own. We can judge people. Blame them. But we haven’t lived their life. I accept Yusaf’s apology, but understand why the woman he lied to can’t. I hope he gets away from negative people, and seeks professional help, and thrives healthily. Lives can change. Bad can become good again. Time heals.
Retired pro boxer Yusaf Mack, coming clean after being threatened with a lawsuit, writes:
“This is an issued public apology from my heart. I want to address a few situations with the first being the false claims I made about being drugged during the Dog Pound adult film. I have never spoke negatively about the company that produced the film although the claim to have been given a drug by someone during set was a lie. I was completely aware and fully conscious during the film.
“The second situation, which further explain the first, concerns my lifestyle. I did participate in the adult film because at the time I needed money but also because I am a bisexual man. Meaning I enjoy safely being intimate with whomever I choose.
“Lastly I would like to address the reason I lied. My life was completely destroyed once it had been outed that I participated in a gay film. I selfishly tried to cover the truth and remain in denial, rather than accept the fact that I was leading a double life secretly.
“After reflecting on the mess I had made I realized that I hurt a lot of my loved ones and the people, my fans, I cared about the most were left disappointed and confused. It was unfair and time to come clean. I want to say sorry to my children and my ex fiancé, I am so sorry that I was a coward and hid a huge part of my life from you all. To the ones that were once my friends and now feel disgust, I’m sorry, but this is my life. I’m not looking for sympathy or even understanding, I’ve kept this secret for a long time. It is time to move forward and this is me walking in my truth.
“There are other men and women that are set up in the similar situations and I just hope I can be inspiration to be just be you. The extreme taboo and harsh criticism of living a same sex lifestyle, especially as an African American male, makes it hard to be completely honest and comfortable within yourself. But I had to remember that I am a champ & I can fight and will fight through this. I am more than my sexual orientation. To all of my supporters I thank you dearly.”