Seranine – #MyTransReality

Kindly shared with neverblendin     
So, I saw a post that a friend had shared on facebook and I immediately contacted the writer.

I said, “Thank you for sharing this eloquent, candid and insightful piece about what it means to you to live as the authentic you and the wider implications of the recent backwards misogynistic legislation. Your voice is vital in the conversation to dispel the hateful myths. Thank you for sharing. Is this something that I would be able to share in my diversity blog “neverblendin”?”

Her response was equally swift, “Please do, everything I publish publicly is meant for the widest possible audience. Thank you! 😊”

Her name is Seranine and this is what she had to say:

This is what I looked like this morning, right after I got up. I pulled on panties and a tank top. No makeup. I didn’t even shave.
I know I’m in between. That’s why they call this a “transition.” How long would I last in the men’s locker room, looking like this? How long would it be before I got the shit kicked out of me for being who I am? Or worse? What about when you factor in the reasons why I’d be in the men’s locker room, to begin with? You know, the legislation that gets passed because people argue that #girlslikeus are actually men who are also necessarily sexual predators, out to violate someone’s daughter. How long do you give me? A few weeks? First day? Five minutes?
People like to share pictures of trans men and women who “transitioned well,” using the wrong bathroom (i.e. the bathroom for the gender they were mistakenly designated as at birth), and arguing, “do you really think SHE belongs in the men’s room?” or “do you really want to see HIM in the women’s room?” And if I’m all made up, I could post the same kind of picture. But those pictures miss the point, because they’re still about people LOOKING like they belong in a gendered space. But not everyone can look like that. Not everyone even wants to.
Google “Ny Richardson McDonald’s.” Google “Cortney Bogorad.” Think of all the women you know in your own life who are disregarded as people when their value as sex objects for men is absent. Think of all the women you know in your own life who are disregarded as people when they have value as sex objects for men.
“Bathroom bills” aren’t about protecting women and girls. They are about POLICING women and girls. They are about bullshit beauty standards, and the fact that my skinny white ass gets a pass in a lot of places where the heavier, blacker, hairier women, trans or cis, do not, is garbage. Your bathroom bills are about misogyny, plain and simple. They are about telling women, trans or cis, that if you do not “look like a girl,” you are subject to violence that the state is encouraging. They’re not even being subtle about it.
Your bathroom bills aren’t about trans women or the horror fantasy of “men in my daughter’s bathroom.” They’re about controlling women, and telling us how we’re allowed and not allowed to exist.


About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (, personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer. View all posts by neverblendin

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