This is a rant. It may stay up it may not. If you don’t like it don’t read it. And if ANY of you say ‘yeah…but not ALL men’ minimising and derailing a feminist issue into a male one then you will be unfriended. Simple.
I am in my 40s. My mum’s generation fought for womens rights, so why am I still having to do the same?
I used to do judo when I was a kid because I was a bit of a tomboy. Right up until several of the boys said I should fight without a t-shirt under my judo suit…coz yanno only then I would be accepted (and exposing my rather flat chest). I stopped doing judo after a rape threat.
Too many parties when I was younger where I would have to point to my face when young men were actually having conversations with my breasts.
Jobs working in bars where I was told if I complained about the owners son who repeatedly grabbed my breasts, my arse, and tried to grab inbetween my legs; that I would lose my job if I complained.
Numerous (now ex) boyfriends who would have voliatile emotionally or sometimes physically aggressive hissy fits because how I behaved ‘made’ them act that way. Having no autonomy over their own actions or emotional state.
When I was dating recently to be reminded that me saying no had a LOT less weight to it than the man I was on a date with.
I still walk in well lit areas and I still walk with my keys between my fingers.
I STILL have to envoke the girl code where I will give people lifts home or look after them because it is STILL not safe for women out there.
Why do I get pissed with this issue? Why is it still an issue in 2016? My gender still has to justify itself so much more than men and it makes me sick. It started, for me, when my own mother deemed me the wrong gender: not delighted to have a daughter, disappointed that she did not have a son.
I am so sick of defending feminism. So sick of educating men. So sick of guiding people through what should be pretty obvious territory. So sick of all this bullshit.
No one thing set off this rant. Just 40 years of screaming that I (and all other women) should have the same rights and be treated the same way as men.