Rest, Relax, Recharge then Persist with #Positivity – David E Watters

So here’s a lovely story which serves as a reminder that our activism, our advocacy and our individual or collective actions are valuable and meaningful even to those we haven’t even met. 

Our campaigns and initiatives can be all-consuming and exhausting, especially when these are activities carried out between working and, if we are lucky, sleeping. 

I was in the park with Russell, our creatively named Jack Russell, and a man came hurtling downhill toward me, skidding his mountain bike to a halt right beside us.

“Congratulations,” he said, with a big smile, “I saw you in the paper and said to my wife, that’s the guy I see in the park sometimes.”

“It’s great that you’ve got married, after all you did to make it possible for others.”

I was surprised, pleasantly surprised, and felt like a minor celebrity for a few moments and, as he wished me a great day and rode off, I felt quite moved that he’d taken the time to approach me with such positivity and enthusiasm.

Then, a few days ago, which is almost 7 months since the wedding, Richard was at work in his newish job and he was aware of a woman, in perhaps her 40s, who was working at her laptop but who kept glancing at him then looking away. 

Strange, he thought.

Then she tentatively said, “Excuse me, but were you anything to do with the Equal Love Campaign?”

When he confirmed that he had been, she then excitedly told him how she had been civilly partnered until the law changed and then had recently “upgraded” to a civil marriage. 

At her wedding she and her wife chose to, in our absence, publicly thank those involved in the Equal Love Campaign for making their marriage possible.

It’s incredibly affirming and encouraging to hear stories like this and I hope that in sharing these with you, you will remain hopeful, even when exhausted, when disheartened and on the verge of giving up. 

I know how it can get, when you struggle, seemingly fruitlessly, against resistant forces and feel that your efforts are having no impact.
I know how important it is to develop patience, to be creative, tireless and tenacious.

I also know how important it is to develop and implement self-care strategies so that you can balance your life, maintain a healthy and positive attitude and, when necessary, step back, relax, refresh and return galvanised for the next round. 

It is important to not only give support to others but to remember to ask for support BEFORE your emotional resources are depleted.
So, if there is any message or moral to this story, it is that you are as deserving of love and kindness as anyone and in order to help others, you must first help yourself. 

Your advocacy, your activism, your campaigning and your creative initiatives are valuable and are making an impact.

Never doubt that and never feel that you are not doing enough. We can all do more but we must measure that against the personal cost to ourselves and to those close to us. 
Take time out, when you can, and see that as part of the process in being able to persist positively with your plan to affect lasting change for those who need people like you, people who have a voice and who are willing to be the tall poppies so that others may grow and thrive in the soil that lacks the nutrients to let them flourish unaided. 

#Nourish #Flourish 


About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (, personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer. View all posts by neverblendin

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