I was surprised, pleasantly surprised, and felt like a minor celebrity for a few moments and, as he wished me a great day and rode off, I felt quite moved that he’d taken the time to approach me with such positivity and enthusiasm.
Then, a few days ago, which is almost 7 months since the wedding, Richard was at work in his newish job and he was aware of a woman, in perhaps her 40s, who was working at her laptop but who kept glancing at him then looking away.
It’s incredibly affirming and encouraging to hear stories like this and I hope that in sharing these with you, you will remain hopeful, even when exhausted, when disheartened and on the verge of giving up.
I know how it can get, when you struggle, seemingly fruitlessly, against resistant forces and feel that your efforts are having no impact.
I know how important it is to develop patience, to be creative, tireless and tenacious.
I also know how important it is to develop and implement self-care strategies so that you can balance your life, maintain a healthy and positive attitude and, when necessary, step back, relax, refresh and return galvanised for the next round.
It is important to not only give support to others but to remember to ask for support BEFORE your emotional resources are depleted.
So, if there is any message or moral to this story, it is that you are as deserving of love and kindness as anyone and in order to help others, you must first help yourself.
Your advocacy, your activism, your campaigning and your creative initiatives are valuable and are making an impact.
Never doubt that and never feel that you are not doing enough. We can all do more but we must measure that against the personal cost to ourselves and to those close to us.
Take time out, when you can, and see that as part of the process in being able to persist positively with your plan to affect lasting change for those who need people like you, people who have a voice and who are willing to be the tall poppies so that others may grow and thrive in the soil that lacks the nutrients to let them flourish unaided.