No-one achieves change alone…




No-one achieves change alone but one person is all it takes to encourage others to believe that they are valid and valuable enough to use their voice.

David E. Watters, is perhaps best known as one of the Marriage Equality pioneers who challenged U.K. marriage laws at the European Court of Human Rights, making it possible for many thousands of couples to realise their romantic aspirations since the laws were changed.

Perhaps you know him as the founder of the internationally acclaimed Give ’em Hope Campaign but did you know that he is also a teacher, motivational speaker and writer; a passionate equality advocate, committed to enhancing the lives of young people and adults who may feel marginalised or limited by labels?

As a teacher, currently working within a Special Educational Needs setting, he is committed to developing the whole person through creatively challenging students to embrace their unique value, and that of others, to encourage them to fulfil their full potential.

For more than 25 years, he has consistently embedded social development and community engagement within his teaching, delivering diversity training and events; in the process, raising funds and/or awareness for the Terrence Higgins Trust, MacMillan Cancer Support, Teenage Cancer Trust, Ichthyosis Support Group, Solent NHS Trust, Enham, Animals Asia Foundation, the Meningitis Trust, The Bruce Trust, Brave Hearts, the British Red Cross, Andover Community Responder Team, amongst others.

He has won a Vodaphone World of Change Award and was nominated for an Excellence in Diversity Award 2015, for his contribution to enhancing the diversity agenda within education and for two European Diversity Awards because of his work with the Give ’em Hope Campaign.

The inclusive, inspirational and international Give ‘em Hope Campaign is an online Oral History initiative which utilises all available social networks to encourage and uplift those who doubt their validity, feel isolated or limited by labels, through the sharing of written and video testimonies.

Contributions for the campaign have come from all corners of the globe, from a diverse range of contributors of all ages, genders, races, faiths and sexualities. The topics covered have shone a light on the commonality of our human experience, regardless of the particular labels an initial first glance may imply.

The campaign was honoured at the National Diversity Awards 2014 when it won the Community Organisation Award (Multi-Strand).

Watters was a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK; taking the British Government to the European Court of Human Rights in 2010 and successfully achieving Marriage Equality for same-sex couples in the United Kingdom.

As part of the Equal Love Campaign, spearheaded by veteran Human Rights campaigner Peter Tatchell, David E Watters and Richard J Hull were the second same-sex couple to file for a marriage license in Greenwich back in December 2010.

Their application, as anticipated, was refused and this prompted them, under the banner of the Equal Love Campaign, to take their case to the ECHR (European Court of Human Rights).

This they did alongside 7 other couples, both straight and gay, claiming unfair treatment in access to marriage and civil partnership within the UK.

When a case, such as this, is taken to the ECHR the British government have a limited timeframe in which to respond and take action.

As we now know, marriage equality, in terms of gay couples having access to civil marriage was achieved.

In a statement made prior to their own historic wedding in August last year, Peter Tatchell, who coordinated the Equal Love campaign from 2010 to 2013, noted:


“I am delighted that David and Richard are getting married and offer them my congratulations. Together with three other gay couples, they played a very important role in helping secure same-sex marriage and in winning public hearts and minds. I am so proud of them. They were great ambassadors for marriage equality. I wish them every happiness.”

When interviewed by Katie Oakes for ITV London News, this is what the couple had to say:

David: “We are both thrilled to have played a part in successfully challenging the UK marriage laws and to have helped make it possible for others to  realise their romantic aspirations.

Our goal was never selfishly motivated and we always wanted, through our involvement with the Equal Love Campaign, to be a voice for others.

It has been hugely rewarding to see others take up the opportunity to marry or to “upgrade” their previous Civil Partnerships.

We have gone on an enriching personal journey which has meant talking to the media both nationally and internationally, in a bid to raise awareness, and this has had untold benefits to those who struggle to accept their sexuality or who live within cultures where they may face severe discrimination.

Publicly sharing our stories and taking part in challenging inequality is the only way that social progress can be made.

There is no longer a sense of gay shame and there is no shame in being gay. We are thankful to have played a part in changing the law and in challenging perceptions.

It was presumed that couples would immediately marry when the law changed but we decided to wait, to do it in our own way and in our own time.

The Equal Love Campaign taught me a great deal and has inspired me to continue striving for social change.”

I know how it can get, when you struggle, seemingly fruitlessly, against resistant forces and feel that your efforts are having no impact.

I know how important it is to develop patience, to be be creative, tireless and tenacious.

I also know how important it is to develop and implement self-care strategies so that you can balance your life, maintain a healthy and positive attitude and, when necessary, step back, relax, refresh and return galvanised for the next round.
















































About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (, personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer. View all posts by neverblendin

2 responses to “No-one achieves change alone…


    […] Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m never stuck for words but this endorsement from Sherri Gray, a dedicated equality advocate, songwriter and therapist who has gifted our campaign with numerous videos, has me at a loss for what to say. It’s difficult to comprehend that someone can think and feel this way but I will stay grounded and not let my ego inflate and carry me away!   Thank you Sherri.   Wednesday, March 22, 2017 – “I am a 76 year old peaceful activist myself so I learned about David Watters’ work a few years ago when I wrote a song in favor of marriage equality for my niece and her (then) fiancee. I’m also a licensed, very experienced therapist who has worked with many LGBT clients in my practice, so I became more active in my advocacy and created even more music relating to the shaming and discrimination this community experiences. The point is, one becomes quite familiar with the names of other folks who work for equality–and even if you’ve not officially ‘met’ them, you definitely feel a connection. Especially with social media, you can find out ‘who’ is working on ‘what’ issues and ‘where in the world they are’. As David says, our work can be very tiring, time-consuming, and exasperating. But I know, just for myself, I cannot NOT do it! There is a ‘drive’ inside you that keeps you “in the trenches, no matter what”. I believe David Watters has that internal motivation. As I began to learn more about him, I was in awe of how in the world he crammed so much into a single day. (As a therapist, I hoped he was taking at least SOME time to kick back and relax). Then I found out that he has been involved in diversity training and fundraising for a plethora of community causes for the past quarter of a century…so i figured he must be a human being who has learned to incorporate common sense and ‘balance’ into his life! I no longer worry about his getting ‘burnout’ — Obviously, his path is working well for him! I’m pretty skilled intuitively, and though I’ve not met this gentleman face-to-face, I admit I have a kind of “motherly affection” for him. I have read his posts on “Give Em Hope” and “Never Blend In”, watched his videos, seen news media stories about him and his work, and I am convinced that David Watters is truly ‘The Real Deal’. I don’t believe there is a phony bone in his body–he is “authentic” — what you see is what you get. It goes without saying that he is bright, energetic, handsome, articulate, and talented. He’s a fantastic motivator, and I know his students adore him. Beyond that, the comments on his sites expressing admiration and gratitude for his efforts are endless. People all over the world appreciate what dear David is doing for marginalized populations. He works for EVERYONE who has experienced ANY type of bullying or abuse…and he does so cheerfully, with patience, compassion, and professionalism. Yes, David has featured my LGBT-related songs on his site, but I promise you, even if he hadn’t, I would be writing this endorsement of his deservingness for your Positive Role Model Award. My training is in Psychology, and one of my favorite ‘virtual mentors’ is a gentleman named Albert Bandura, who developed the theory of “Modeling Behavior”. We humans are a social family, and we truly do learn to live in our world largely by watching others. I would be supremely happy for my children and grandchildren to be around David Watters on a daily basis, and, eventually, exhibit his determination, strength of character, and intelligence, as he pursues his daily mission to make our world a better place for every single man, woman, and child. So, we have actual, quantifiable evidence that David Watters does superb work–in many areas–with, and for many people. He is ‘wise beyond his years’, in my opinion — generous with his time and energy, but not a ‘pushover’. He is extremely serious about this ‘Equality Stuff’ — it’s not a ‘whim’ for him — it’s his life! I genuinely sense that, and I totally understand his commitment. But my final words will be about his heartspace. I don’t believe your Positive Role Model Award could be in the hands of anyone more worthy of it than David Watters. His life experiences, his track record, and his current work speak for themselves. He lives his life in a mature, responsible, balanced manner. He has earned the love and respect of folks all over our planet, but, with humility, always finds a way to give credit to someone else. A role model is someone about whom we elders whisper into young folks’ ears, “Psssst… watch that one… there’s someone from whom you can learn how to live a good life.” Then I’d nudge that young person to just follow wonderful DW around for a day or so…and my guess is, the young person would come back to me and say something like, “You were right, Sherri…he is everything you said he is. I can understand why he received that Positive Role Model National Diversity Award in 2017!” OH…and that heartspace I mentioned… that’s the foundation for it all. David Watters’ heart is big enough to love this whole wide world. I see it, and I hope you do too:). Thank you for celebrating diversity and unity! (about my ‘details’ — you have my name and email, I’m on Facebook,I have a youtube site, I live in Nashville TN, USA. If you require address and phone # or need to speak w/me, pls send email and I’ll get back with you. Hope that’s enough.) “   You can leave an endorsement too, but don’t feel you have to write quite as much! […]


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