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About neverblendin

David Watters, a graduate of Napier University, Edinburgh, Trinity College of Music, London and the Institute of Education, University of London, has worked internationally within education and Educational Management for more than 20 years. He has taught extensively within many socially and culturally diverse settings; most recently as a Head of Performing Arts within Further Education. He is a personal and professional development associate with The Pacific Institute (www.pacificinstitute.co.uk), personal coach, freelance writer and founding member of NBI Associates. He is a writer on social equality issues, is a key player in the Equal Love Campaign UK and author of the forthcoming book, NEVER BLEND IN which features key voices from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community and which aims to inspire and encourage those who may lack self-esteem or who question their validity. David is currently promoting a youtube campaign"Give 'em Hope"and is asking individuals, couples and groups to make and share videos telling about the benefits of living with personal authenticity. He has shared a platform with Stuart Milk and Peter Tatchell and is a supporter of 17-24-30, The Trevor Project, Schools Out, The Terrence Higgins Trust, The Albert Kennedy Trust and numerous others. His background in arts and education, combined with a solid understanding of Cognitive Behavioural Strategies, and his passion for Equality Advocacy drive every aspect of his work as a personal development facilitator, motivational speaker and writer.

DATING CAN BE DIFFICULT – KAREN ADELL SCOTT for neverblendin and The Give ’em Hope Campaign 


Dating men as a transgender female is such a challenge. Non-transgender males (we call you “cis-gender” which mean natal males) don’t easily and rarely get it. 

Few straight males will consider a transgender woman as anything other than a “man” posing as a woman. Nearly all consider they “become gay” if they date us. Thats not true at all! 

Men, change your thinking. We have always been girls. Always. 


Think about what you are attracted to in a female. Transgender women are all that and more. We are, in a way, super females. 


I think back to when I was courted by a Navy Seal who had been in the teams. He searched for me, according to him, for three years. He and I chatted for months online. When I visited So Cal on a trip he excitedly asked me out. We had an absolutely wonderful evening. We clicked completely. He loved the sea; I did too. He dove, I dove. He loved engines and cars; I did too. He understood combat, as did I. He loved riding Harley’s, I did too. He was a shooter, I was a shooter. He thought I was gorgeous and I thought he was handsome. He loved adventure as did I. We were fantastic together.


He asked me, after a simply amazing evening, if I would be willing to change my life and spend the rest of it with him. I said yes. 


Then… He disappeared. His “poof” disappearing act was followed by a single text: “How would this ever work out?” Meaning: “How would I ever explain you to my hypermasculine friends?” The culturally perpetuated falsehood that a transgender woman is just a “male posing as a female” was too powerful for him to oppose. 


Fear. Culturally perpetuated transphobic fear. Homomalevolent fear. Fear of being seen as gay. Fear of what other males would say if seen with me. 
Men change your thinking. 


We were NEVER MEN, but have the advantage of totally understanding you. We were never men, but understand EXACTLY how to please you. We were never men but we understand how you think. 


We have great endurance, deep romantic drives, amazing loyalty and profound commitment. We are often youthful physically and retain tremendous energy and physical ability even into old age. We are super females. 


Change your thinking. Get to know us. Learn how amazing we really are. Love us and experience life and love beyond what you ever imagined it could be. 


Date super women. Date amazing women. Date transgender women. 


We simply rock, baby.
[Now for you transgender men and women: Be happy as authentic you. We do not take our value by if we are loved or not by any other person. We are infinitely valuable. If you are lonely (as many of us are) volunteer to help others. Caring for others is a balm for a lonely heart. Help at a shelter, an ASPCA, a food bank, or an LGBT center. Help people online. Do TransCare and help with transitions. This assuages loneliness and helps the heart, for in giving you also get. Above all, interact with others, even if only online.]


I may not be loved by a special partner, but I love me for I am special. ❤


ONE SMALL VOICE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD for #Chechnya 



I have signed this petition https://www.change.org/p/russia-prosecutor-general-investigate-mass-murder-and-torture-of-lgbt-people-in-chechnya?recruiter=1427818&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=share_twitter_responsive because it is important for us to speak up when we see such inhumanity towards others. 

We don’t have to be directly affected to care and our compassion and empathy should guide us toward standing up and speaking out for those who are being mistreated, abused and victimised in our world. 


This is not a gay rights issue, this is an issue that should anger and galvanise all fair-minded people. We cannot sit back, in good conscience, and do nothing. 


We have to give a voice to those who are silenced and give hope to those who feel that theirs is lost. 


‪Please also sign and share this avaaz petition regarding Chechnya Concentration Camps https://secure.avaaz.org/campaign/en/close_the_gay_torture_camps_loc/?rc=fb&pv=140‬


THE CURSE OF “DESPAIR” ~ Tom Mitcham


THE CURSE OF “DESPAIR” ~ Tom Mitcham

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“DESPAIR” = [noun]: the complete loss or absence of hope.   

In our journey of life sometimes we experience a complete loss of hope; this is what we call  ‘DESPAIR’.  DESPAIR is such a cruel punishment! There aren’t any fevers, rashes – no blood tests to send people scurrying in concern – just the slow erosion of self, as insidious as any cancer – and like any cancer, it’s essentially a solitary room in Hell with only your name on the door!!  We should be reminded that DESPAIR will be replaced with PEACE when we think on the right things. Remind ourselves that it is okay NOT to be PERFECT!  Before we can see the light, we have to deal with the darkness. Sometimes “The greatest FAITH is born in the hour of DESPAIR. When we can see no HOPE and no way out, then FAITH rises and brings the VICTORY.” Sometimes we learn the hard way that it doesn’t pay to DESPAIR or get DISCOURAGED ~ keeping busy and making OPTIMISM A WAY OF LIFE can restore the FAITH in ourselves!!  We aren’t what we have DONE ~ or what has HAPPENED TO US ~ “WE ARE WHAT WE HAVE OVERCOME”!!  Real STRENGTH doesn’t come from what we ‘CAN’ do – it comes from OVERCOMING the things we once thought we ‘COULDN’T’ ! Sometimes we just have to “FIGHT LIKE HELL” and that ‘FIGHTING’ will make us what we want to be!  We just have to BELIEVE in ourselves – and all that we are, knowing there is something inside us that’s GREATER than ANY obstacle or challenge!!

   In the end, what a Blessing it would be, if we each could say ~ “… I AM ‘STRONGER’ BECAUSE I HAD TO BE!  I AM ‘SMARTER’ BECAUSE OF MY MISTAKES!  I AM ‘HAPPIER’ BECAUSE I HAVE OVERCOME THE SADNESS I’VE KNOWN & I AM ‘WISER’ BECAUSE I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY LIFE” !!!

Enjoy the remainder of the weekend, and have an AWESOME, POSITIVE & PRODUCTIVE week ahead!

~ Tom ~

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What exactly is the Give ’em Hope Campaign?

 

The Give ’em Hope Campaign exists to spread positivity and encouragement to those who need It most, through the use of online networks – individual video or written testimonies on a range of topics to help others fulfil their potential. regardless of their circumstances.

 

Your story, written or on video, can have such a powerful impact on the lives of others and this should not be underestimated. Send me your story and make a difference to the lives of those who hear it.

 

Email: davidequalitywatters@outlook.com

 

OUR BACKGROUND, AS EXPLAINED BY SOME OF OUR INTERNATIONAL FAMILY: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A28skAO0AQ8

 

MUSIC VIDEO COMPILATION: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqc9hfgPd1E

 

TWITTER: @NEVER_BLEND_IN (FOR NEWS ABOUT THE BOOK AND THE GIVE ‘EM HOPE CAMPAIGN)

 

BOOK WEBPAGE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/106980051654/

 

GIVE ‘EM HOPE CAMPAIGN PLAYLIST: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=is3CfP7DgWY&list=PL2D507F373FE6BC7D

 

GIVE ‘EM HOPE CAMPAIGN GROUP (or FAMILY as we call it): https://www.facebook.com/groups/GiveEmHope/

 

GIVE ‘EM HOPE PAGE (Come and LIKE us for news and Inspiration): https://www.facebook.com/GIVEemHOPE/


SET THE WORLD ON FIRE – DAVID E WATTERS


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SET THE WORLD ON FIRE – START WITH YOU

The only real purpose to any life is the commitment one shows to helping others; to nurturing and supporting those who need it most.

Maya Angelou said something about that…I’ll misquote her but the point she made was that people will forget what you said and what you did, but they won’t forget how you made them feel.

It is vital that we validate and celebrate those whom we encounter, whether friends and relatives or passing acquaintances, because we have no idea just how important that validation may be to that individual.

Never doubt that we all struggle, in one way or another, and we could all benefit from a little more compassion and a gentle acknowledgement that we are not entirely alone.

Many of us silently struggle with challenges and many feel an overwhelming sense of loneliness and isolation. Many go through extended periods of self-doubt and battle with feelings of hopelessness.

Be the one to smile and put your own struggle aside, for a moment, for 20 seconds then 20 more; listen and really hear the answer to your question, “How are you?”

You’ll be surprised how differently you hear the answer when you truly listen and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel about your own struggles when you actively practice empathy.

Do we have a deal? Maybe you already do this. Maybe you, like me, need a little reminder to do it a little more.

So, let’s set the world on fire with love and compassion. Positively participate in your life and the lives of those around you.

As I like to remind myself – we are not humans having a spiritual experience but rather spiritual beings having a human experience and that experience involves, perhaps demands, challenges and physical, mental and/or emotional struggles.

So, give yourself a break, give those around you a break and be kind, rather than blind to the hidden battles and battle scars of those around.

START WITH YOU.


Make it a HOPEFUL Day


I’ve cleaned up the GEH PLAYLIST and have updated all the descriptions with accurate links and info so now, when you share our videos, viewers will find their way to us much easier. Please have a look and choose a video or two to share. Let’s make today a day of outreach http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2D507F373FE6BC7D


Justice for ALL


The Give ’em Hope Campaign will have a very special video to share tomorrow. The song is by Amanda Vernon and is called “Justice for ALL” 


Watch out for it, first thing tomorrow. In the meantime, here’s a link to Amanda’s website http://amandavernon.com so you can find out more about this wonderful woman who speaks to authentic beauty through music, the language of the soul. 


Rest in Pride: Rainbow Flag creator, Gilbert Baker (1951–2017)



Rainbow Flag creator, Gilbert Baker (1951–2017)


The LGBTQ Community lost an icon yesterday, Gilbert Baker. 


Community compass and conscience, Gilbert Baker (1951–2017), was an artist, designer and lifelong activist for LGBTQ equality, best known as the man who created the rainbow flag for the 1978 Gay Freedom Day celebration in San Francisco. The flag is now an internationally recognized symbol of LGBTQ pride.


A native of Kansas, Gilbert lived in San Francisco from 1970 to 1994, contributing his distinctive designs for countless events. 


In 1994, he moved to New York City, where he spent the rest of his life. He remained active as an artist, with his work commemorating gay victims of the Nazi regime recently displayed in San Francisco.


His legacy will live on.


#Gay #Lgbtq #GayRights #EqualityforAll #GayRightsareHumanRights


This song by Sherri Gray is a gentle tribute to the significance of the RAINBOW FLAG:
https://youtu.be/nTnqIO1aRZw


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